The first is this very fun boyfriend pillow. According to the description on , “He never snores, doesn’t hog the duvet and promises single women a sound nights sleep. Japanese designers have filled the gap in lonely, single ladies beds by creating the boyfriend arm pillow a partner who will happily hug them to sleep without making any demands. The pillow comes with two shirts in blue and pink which can be washed and ironed to enhance that loving housewife experience. One model is also an alarm the boyfriends body shakes to wake his sleeping girl.”

Next is the awesome boyfriend in a box. According to a review by Mothers Who Think, “Miles is different from the other musicians I’ve dated. He looks the part — scraggly, longish hair, loose flannel shirts, decades-old jeans. And he acts the part — he’s on leave “indefinitely” from college. But unlike all the other music men that I’ve fallen for (the alcoholic but sexy-as-sin bassist, the reckless, noncommittal drummer, the obsessive but so-sweet saxophonist), Miles is stable, reliable and devoted. He always has time for me and for the relationship; we go out on Saturday nights, and not just to his gigs. Not once in our two-month relationship has he said, “I have to rehearse late tonight” or “I’m going on tour for a few weeks” or “I can’t have dinner because I’m meeting the guys to talk about the future of the band.” When we’re apart, he calls. When he’s wrong, he says so. I just got back from lunch and found a pink “While You Were Out” note on my chair: “Miles said he’s sorry he missed you again. He’ll see you tonight.” He calls just to ask what time I’m going to be home. He sent me a card last week that said, “You’re the One!” and after our last fight he sent flowers. He even writes songs with my name in them. I feel so tended to. ”

Wanna grow your own? Here you go. Grow a boyfriend is available from Fun Ideas.com

Apparently this one is so good, it’s all you’ll ever need. According to Bitwise Gifts, “Haven’t you always longed for a guy who is extravagant with his compliments, who knows all the right things to say, who is charming, considerate, AND drop dead gorgeous? Are you sick and tired of utterly clueless guys who are incapable of fulfilling your relationship requirements? Are you looking for that special person who knows EXACTLY what you want from a guy? Then look no further.”

And last, but certainly not least, is the ever so fun boyfriend chair. This one apparently even sings to you! It’s available at Turbo Gadgets When you’re lonely and missing out the big warm hug of your boyfriend, Snuggle into the Rockin’ Boyfriend Pillow and listen to some music and feel connected. Though nothing can replace those strong arms, but like they say, something is better than nothing. Soothe your mind to the music that you can connect to this pillow.

Be sure to leave a comment and vote for your favorite. I think I have to go with the Japanese boyfriend pillow.  It just looks like way too damn much fun.

Thoughts?

A while back I read about a wife who’s birthday gift to her husband was sex everyday for a year and about another couple who vowed to have sex for 100 days straight. The result: more energy, a better mood, and a stronger bond with their partner.

Now the pastor of a 20,000 member congregation in Dallas has issued a challenge to the church’s members. His challenge: to have sex everyday for a week. He is encouraging married members of the congregation to have sex for seven days straight in order to begin to strengthen their bond.

So why don’t we all challenge our own relationships, married or not? Let’s make a vow to put extra time and effort into our sex lives and, in turn, into our relationships. Start with short term goals such as the pastor’s modest challenge of seven days and work your way up to 365 days of sexual bliss.

As always, happy humping!

The Truth About Sex

The truth is that sex isn’t all about making babies. It’s about forging an emotional connection between people based on trust and intimacy.

Yes, it’s wonderful. Yes, it’s fun. And on it’s own it can be a break from reality, a stress reliever, and a way to cap off a night of partying. We should revel in it, enjoy it, enhance it and even experiment with it to find that which makes it an experience like no other.

But at its base, in a relationship, it forges a bond that goes deeper than any other. It’s a bond based on a connection that can transcend even communication. One touch, one kiss, one smoldering look from a lover can say things words never could.

The Truth About Communication

I’ve been guilty myself of saying the key to a successful relationship is communication, but the truth of the matter is that it’s just one essential ingredient.

You have to be able to communicate to be successful in any relationship whether it be at work, with family, or with your partner. That’s a gimme. If you can’t talk to each other, you leave too much to misinterpretation. You’re left guessing if you’re meeting the needs of your partner, if your teenager understands why she can’t be out at 1:00 a.m., or why your boss keeps passing you over for a promotion.

It’s important. No one’s arguing that. But it’s not the be all, end all of a relationship.

The Truth About Attraction

Sure, we all have preferences. Personally, I’m attracted to tall, athletic preferably younger men, but carried to an extreme that can be limiting. You have to be open enough to realize that person who is perfect for you may be shorter or less athletic or older than you think.

By completely excluding people from our ideal, we may just be excluding ourselves from the relationship we’ve been looking for. We may pass by a wonderful person who would compliment us perfectly. Think about that the next time you’re fillling out those check boxes on your dating profile. Maybe you’ll find yourself a little more open.

The Truth About Relationships

The truth is that successful, healthy relationships are about balance. Yes, I know. I’m a Libra and Libras are all about balance. Still, if you focus to much on simply procreating, your sex life and therefore your connection will suffer. Ask anyone who has had trouble getting pregnant and has had to set a sex schedule.

The same is true of communication. If you talk yourselves to death, will you really enhance your connection and your relationship? No. Life will just become one big damn discussion. You’ll miss out on experiencing each other because all you’ll get done is talking about experiencing each other.

If you find yourself with a shopping list of wants and needs in a partner, you’ll be shopping the rest of your life. Find a balance and realize that you’re likely not going to find every single thing you want in one person. It’s a lot to ask of someone isn’t it? To be everything you need?

Work to find a balance rather than looking for the one thing that will make your relationship successful. It may just make all the difference.

Thoughts?

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Happy Humping!

“Some people are just not good on the phone.” Amen! As I’ve said before, the phone is not my friend. I am not one of those women whose phone is permanently attached to her ear. In fact, the only time you’ll find me just chatting is when I’m talking to one of my daughters or my BFF who lives 3 hours away. Other than that, no thanks.

While I agree that in the beginning, when asking for a first date for example, it’s better to make a phone call than to text, overall I have nothing whatsoever against text messages. In fact, many times I prefer them.

I will say, however, that the late night “fishing” text is one I don’t like. It’s obvious that one’s all about a booty call and that’s not something I’m all about.

What about you? Texting okay with you or do you think he should pick up the phone?

Everyday, all across the world, people are shacking up, having sex, banging, screwing, fucking, making love, getting laid, or whatever you like to call it. People screw for pleasure, for love, for money, or for recreation. Some have sex because they were pressured, some because they were forced, and some because they are addicted. There are even those that have sex to procreate or consummate a marriage. I, for one, do it because it is a helluva lot of fun.

These days, folks that wait for marriage to have sex are seemingly in the minority. Those that wait often do so out of respect for their religion. Sex is meant to be shared with the person you marry- the ONE person you choose to spend the rest of your life with and start a family with. As BradK put it, “…the Church uses ‘consummation of marriage’ to bind the new couple, their offspring, and the magic and powers of womanhood to the Church’s use - don’t make the mistake of thinking that sex before the rites have the same meaning or power.”

So here is what confuses me…

If the purpose of sex is to consummate a marriage and the logic for this is because God said it to be so, then what about those that aren’t religious or are atheist? There are people that do not look to a “higher power” or a book or a worship service to seek answers or find guidelines to live by. They thrive on a personal set of ethics which drives why they do what they do and why they are who they are. Is sex then meaningless for them?

I don’t believe it to be meaningless. Sex takes on whatever meaning we, as individuals, want it to. We each choose to have sex for different reasons and, given that the decision is consensual between all parties, those reasons are for no one else to judge. After all, if there is a God, isn’t judgment reserved for him anyhow?

Back to consummating a marriage. If the purpose of sex is to consummate a marriage, then what about those who choose not to ever tie the not? Are they not entitled to sex? What about the folks who have been married multiple times? Does the meaning and “power” of sex diminish for them after time?

As legitimate as these questions are, they should be considered rhetorical. Everyone is “entitled” to have sex for whatever reason *they* choose- again, assuming it is consensual among all parties involved. Believing that marriage is the inevitable and final stage for all relationships can be equated to ignorance. Marriage is not a one-sized fits all suit.

Moving on to starting a family…

Not everyone is out to have a baby. I am one of those people. I am a firm believer in birth control and would like to shake the hand of whoever first thought of the concept. I have no plans in my immediate or near future to have a baby at all. If at some point I do decide to have children, adoption will be of high consideration for me.

So then, if not to start a family, why have sex? If you’ll remember back to my opening statement, I said because it is a helluva lot of fun! That’s not to say I run around having sex with anything that has the right parts, I am safe about it and get tested regularly. I do not think having sex before marriage or for recreational purposes is wrong and no one will ever convince me otherwise.

So how about the folks that are divorced and done having babies? Is a bedroom romp then an abomination? Hell no! Just because we have been through a few stages in life does not mean that it is time to shrivel up and quit living. Enjoy your sex drive for as long as it will allow you to- or even longer thanks to Viagra.

When to have sex, where to have sex, why to have sex, and whom to have sex with are all personal choices that cannot be rightfully dictated or judged by someone else.

For all those that make the decision not to get married and/or not to have babies, happy humping!

In Dating Makes You Want to Die: (But You Have to Do It Anyway), Holloway, Robinson and their insane sense of humor take you through the steps: being single, first contact, first date, third date, falling in love, meeting the parents, break up options, moving in together, and marriage.

As they’ll tell you:

You need to date. Truth be told-and we will always tell you the truth, like it or not-dating is hard but not complicated.  Every step of a relationship is like that part of Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where Indy can step only on the the letters that spell the Latin name of God, or else be consumed by the bottomless cavern. Bottomless caverns are no fun, as anyone who’s ever made love to Perez Hilton can attest to. But lest you, like Indy, forget your dead-language training, and make a near-fatal misstep, pay attention. This book will guide you step-by-step through the chasm of romance to the holy grail of partnerhood.

And so it begins with singlehood or why you’re not having sex. Apparently, there are 8 reasons why:

1. You’re a slave to your work
2. You’re living with your parents
3. You look like you could use a cocktail (That would be me by the way. I definitely don’t get out enough)
4. You look, and smell, like you’ve had too many cocktails (Or other things much less legal.)
5. You don’t know how to dress
6. You spend more time talking to your cat than to other humans (Yep, that’s probably me too.)
7. Your social network is built around internet gaming
8. Your friends are only lovable to you

Most of the remedies include drinking more alcohol as does a large part of the book. Go out more, meet for a drink instead of coffee, and on and on it goes. You already know how I feel about the possibility of meeting Mr. Right For Me in a bar.

That being said, overall there are some good bits of advice and suggestions that make sense. For example:

There’s a law of physics that goes something like, “Every time you look your worst, you will run into someone you want to look good for.”

Yep, happens to me every damn time. This lovely law now has me fixing my hair, freshening my make up, and slathering on the pheromones to run to the grocery store or out for a burger with my parents. Hasn’t helped me meet anyone yet, but who knows.

There is also, of course, advice about where to meet people, including internet dating, and how to make a good first impression. I particularly like the section entitled: “Craigslist and eHarmony: Two Sides of One Creepy Coin.” Definitely a must read.

Holloway and Robinson also do their best to keep you grounded in reality.

Remember: You’re not looking to walk away from meeting someone thinking, “This is the one. That PhD-approved compatibility formula sure is smart.” Or, “Thank you, lame kickball league, for matching me with the yin to my yang. I think I’ll go shopping for things to wear on my honeymoon now. ” You’re looking to walk away thinking, “I could see that person again.” And that’s what dating is-seeing that person again until you don’t want to anymore. Or don’t want to see anyone else anymore. Beautiful, ain’t it?

Each section ends with a cute little quiz to help you determine where you are on your journey which may, or may not, end at the chapel…if you decide that’s where your journey has taken you.

Thoughts?

It is common these days to hear that a couple that has been dating for awhile is on a “break”. My question is what are the rules to being on a break? Are both parties able to go on a date with others? Can they hook up with someone and not hear about it later from the person they are on a break with? I can’t help but think about the episode of “Friends” that Ross and Rachel were on a break and, I believe Ross slept with someone and Rachel constantly reminded him of it. I could have the roles reversed. If you can go out with whomever, doesn’t that qualify as a breakup? If you can’t doesn’t that mean that you are a couple? The term break is thrown out there a great deal these days, so I am curious as to if there are a list of rules that one must follow when on a break? Maybe you have been on a “break” before and know what is excepted and what isn’t.

lisaq says:

Ugh! I hate talk of rules in dating period. Seriously, why do there have to be rules? You do what feels right in the situation.

Feel like calling on the first day after a date? Go for it. That 3 day call rule is BS. Can’t have sex until the 3rd date? Why the hell not if it feels right on the 2nd date? See my point?

Rules are for school, for mom and dad to impose on their children and for entering contests. Period.

If you and your partner feel the need to take a break, the two of you have to decide what the parameters of that break will be. I mean really, are you going to do a quick Google search and check the rules before you agree?  I think not.

What it really means to take a break is determined by the relationship itself. Only the two of you know the ins and outs of it and therefore, only the two of you should make decisions about it.

It could be that one partner is feeling smothered and just needs a little breathing room. Or maybe there’s a lot going on at work or with the family and he or she needs time to get those things worked out without the added pressure of dealing with the relationship.Then again, maybe it is an excuse to play the field.

The point is that the reasons people feel the need for a break in a relationship are as varied as people themselves. Rules simply can’t be one size fits all in these situations and, therefore, can’t be applied as such.

kira says:

I’m not sure I understand why this is even a question. To say that there is a one size fits all “break” is ludicrous. If a couple is on a break, the “rules” are established by the couple. End of story.

If a couple decides they need to take a break, it is up to them what the guidelines should be. They need to establish whether or not it is ok to see other people or whether they just simply need a breather from each other. In friends, Ross and Rachel didn’t establish whether or not they were going to see other people. Therefore, Ross ended up with someone else meanwhile Rachel wanted to reconcile.

Bottom line is that if a couple goes on a “break” and hasn’t established that it is an official “breakup,” then they need to discuss whether or not they will be seeing other people. It isn’t the same for every couple.