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		<title>Foreplay Tips For Him by Gabrielle Moore</title>
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So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend /wife / lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do…
Well, lucky you! I’ve compiled these hot foreplay tips you can use ASAP so that [...]


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<p>So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend /wife / lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do…</p>
<p>Well, lucky you! I’ve compiled these hot foreplay tips you can use ASAP so that you can have her breathing hard and lusting for your touch tonight!</p>
<h3>Hot Tips for Sexual Foreplay</h3>
<p>Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you don’t know what you’re doing. For instance, you may have seen movies where he ‘tweaks’ her nipples… HARD. Well guys, you know what? That HURTS and you’re not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!</p>
<p>Don’t forget her neck. Often, guys think of foreplay as ‘kissing’ and making love as ‘having sex’. Sorry guys, that’s way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, don’t just kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms, legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.</p>
<h3>Mentally ‘sex her up’.</h3>
<p>It’s a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally put ‘in the mood’. So if you’re planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during the day so she’s already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.</p>
<p>For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So don’t just say “I’m going to fuck you tonight”. Instead, say “You know babe, I’m horny now so when we get back home, I will lick your clit so good that…” I think you get my drift by now…</p>
<p>Learn how to master this and many other techniques. Go to: <a title="Female Orgasms Revealed" href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=882692" target="_blank">Female Orgasms Revealed</a></p>
<h3>Dry hump her.</h3>
<p>In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about ‘increasing the sexual tension’ so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, what’s more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!</p>
<p>Slow dance… while butt-naked. Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your erection against her. Hot!</p>
<h3>Go ‘under the table’.</h3>
<p>I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and here’s another one. One time, while Jill (subscriber name changed for privacy) and her husband were having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to ‘play footsie’ under the table. This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her…</p>
<p>Without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex and the best orgasm she ever had!</p>
<p>Try this one tonight and don’t worry if she’s wearing pants. Just rub your face against her mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.</p>
<p>Read more about how to master these techniques at: <a title="Female Orgasms Revealed" href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=882692" target="_blank">Female Orgasms Revealed</a></p>
<p>Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean it’s intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your manhood all over her vagina – especially her clit – and trust me, she’ll go wild with passion!</p>
<p>I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your ‘foreplay moves’. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly to her clit and lick away. This way, you’re Mr. Surprise and foreplay and sex with you is the best experience she’ll ever have.</p>
<p>Enjoy!</p>
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		<title>The Princess and Sex without A PowerPoint-Guest Post</title>
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By G
Oh, the naïve memories of romantic fairytales! What little girl didn’t get to hear these stories from a mother at bedtime?  I know I heard enough of them, and when I could read independently, I read every Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and Snow White type of story I could find. As I would drift to [...]


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<p>Oh, the naïve memories of romantic fairytales! What little girl didn’t get to hear these stories from a mother at bedtime?  I know I heard enough of them, and when I could read independently, I read every Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and Snow White type of story I could find. As I would drift to sleep, I had dreams of a kind prince, (handsome too, of course!), who was there to help make my every dream come true.  My childhood dreams were vague, but perhaps you can nod in agreement with me when I say my sketch of my prince got much clearer the older I got. My prince was far more than simply kind; this prince had an amazing drive and career to go with it.  Handsome? This guy defined male hotness.  Realizing I could not find or keep a prince of this caliber without work, I was vigilant to stay in shape, remain fashionable, and have a solid education and career of my own. I have no idea the dreams of boys for their future princesses, but I wanted to be certain I was going to meet most of their criteria.</p>
<p>So, eventually, I found my prince; he didn’t fulfill every requirement on my list, but the prince was a decent guy. And what was the end to the story? The prince and princess got together and lived happily ever after.  I’m laughing now as I admit the usual fairytale ending isn’t even close.  What happened? Let’s say there was one thing I left off of the list.</p>
<p>Blame me if you want, but fairytales don’t say anything about sex; it would be a little awkward to add a nooky portion to Cinderella, right?  Everyone assumes the prince and princess have the bedroom business down to an art. No one told me the sorts of sexual desires I should have on list for my dream prince.  Pardon my bluntness, but I should have added the prince had better be able to handle amazing foreplay without needing a PowerPoint slide show for directions.  The prince should also have more than two sexual positions in his bag of tricks. (To be fair to the guys out there, there are some women out there who might also need such advice.) What does a princess do when the prince is not even close to making the magic happen?  She could leave the castle for the next stud on a steed, but bailing is hasty, especially if the rest of the relationship is solid.  Princesses, adjust those crowns because you can be the one to rescue the relationship from a little boredom in the bedroom.</p>
<p>We princesses often wait for the prince to turn the passion to the high setting. This is no time to be passive! This is also when men adore women to be assertive.  Don’t lose your mind trying to figure out a way to pay for a vacation get away for this guy.  Extravagance is not going to be the answer. Creativity is the main ingredient for turning ‘nodding off’ sex into ‘getting off’ sex.  If a girl turns her brain to the on position, her libido will follow.</p>
<p>To begin with, I have to refer to an illicit affair for my example. I am not suggesting an affair is a good idea, but think about how illicit relationships start and how much excitement is involved. Having been in an affair before, I do have knowledge of why the forbidden is desirable, but the heartache is also devastating. Part of the reason I am giving hints for all of those bored princesses out there is so no one needs to experience the negative part of an affair. However, if a princess is yawning too often during sex, she is at risk for stepping outside of her relationship for physical attention from another man.  You want to have this sort of sexual energy with your existing relationship.  Remember when I stated the rest of your relationship is solid? This advice is for you.</p>
<p>If you have seen a movie with a couple involved in an affair, rarely is there a romantic, expensive get-away.  Think of the movie, <em>Fatal Attraction</em>, when Glenn Close and Michael Douglas have sex that would make a porn star blush in an old elevator. Usually, affairs thrive on surprises, not extravagance.  Some of the princes out there simply do not know how to step beyond the regular daily pattern. He comes home, eats dinner, watches television, and once or twice a week before he falls asleep, he kisses his wife’s cheek and does his missionary style moves.  Were you reaching for a trashcan? I know I was.  Princess, you have to shake things up a little because princes are often not very creative. For a simple starter, shortly after he gets home, be spontaneous and whisper in your man’s ear how you would like dessert before dinner and sneak a quickie in the bathroom.  You don’t have to say any ridiculous porn movie lines, but you are breaking the dull pattern by a sweet suggestion. Unless your man is really hopeless, it will be as thrilling for him as it is for you.</p>
<p>Affairs take planning. Schedules have to be in a perfect alignment for two cheaters to be able to keep their affair undetected.  Try to imagine the intense heat you are going to create by calling your man at work and telling him you would like to make love to him that evening. Send a text message to remind him you cannot wait to give him head after the kids are asleep.  I almost can guarantee Mr. Prince will be the most helpful in getting dishes done and children into their beds so he can have what’s on your itinerary. Like I said, it isn’t extravagant, but this planning gets the mundane out of the lovemaking. Most princesses have believed planned sex with their prince will be nerdy. I know several couples who have been married for over a decade who have a schedule sex night each week and have had the ritual for years. Does it sound stale? On the contrary! Every couple I have talked to about this scheduled sex night has said it leads to the best sex, hands down.  They can have spontaneous sex any other time, but they look so forward to a night for the two of them to connect, they can barely keep their hands off of one another.</p>
<p>It might sound a little contradictory to suggest planning and spontaneity as two strategies to reignite a lame lovemaking routine, but these can work well.  Can’t hurt to try, can it? After you try these two simple ideas, maybe your prince will begin to work his way out of the mind numbing sex and try some novel, sexy ideas of his own.  Imagine how good it will feel to be on your way to happily ever after without needing a PowerPoint for inspiration.</p>


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		<title>Differences between Night and Day Game by Jeremy Soul</title>
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Some background on me. I&#8217;ve been working on my game for a few years now. I concentrated very much on indirect club game when I started, but as I grew and developed I discovered a love for Direct Game and Day Game.
Where I stand now is that I like doing night game as well, but [...]


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<p>Some background on me. I&#8217;ve been working on my game for a few years now. I concentrated very much on indirect club game when I started, but as I grew and developed I discovered a love for Direct Game and Day Game.</p>
<p>Where I stand now is that I like doing night game as well, but <a title="Introduction to Day Game" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/audio/vol-50-intro-to-day-game-soul-bonsai&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=246" target="_blank">Day Game</a> will always be my first love. I have met two of the most incredible girlfriends that I have loved most in my life through Day Game, have had countless dates as a result of daytime number closes, have taken girls home the same day I&#8217;ve met them, and brought group of girls I&#8217;ve met in the day back to my place.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve stopped using routines and now flow naturally from my heart. I have enormous respect for routines and I teach my students to use routines if I think they need them. Ultimately though, I have practiced so many routines that I now create them on the spot (which in a way is what being natural is about). I don&#8217;t do takeaways, I don&#8217;t disqualify, I don&#8217;t tease. I escalate shamelessly, hard and fast, whilst simultaneously making sure the girl feels as comfortable and safe as possible.</p>
<p>Though I meet girls in night game, I enjoy the variety of girls you can meet in the daytime, the ease with which you can talk to them (bitch shields are WAY down in the day), and the way you can brighten up a beautiful woman&#8217;s day unexpectedly.</p>
<p>In some ways, Day Game follows the same structure as any other type of game. But people are always asking me questions about how things are different between night and day game. So here are the main differences and how to get around them as I see it.</p>
<p>1. Guys generally get more approach anxiety approaching girls in the daytime than they do at night.</p>
<p>People always think, &#8220;Isn&#8217;t it weird to approach girls in the day? Aren&#8217;t they busy? Aren&#8217;t they going to tell you to go away?&#8221; The truth is it&#8217;s no less weird than approaching people you don&#8217;t know to talk to them in a bar. I used to think girls were going to react really badly, when in fact, they probably react better in the daytime than they do at night. At night, they expect guys to be drunk and hit on them, but in the daytime, it happens to them much less often and thus they are impressed by your confidence and willingness to take risks. Like all approach anxiety, the only way to overcome this is to man up and go approach them!</p>
<p>2. Direct openers are much more necessary in Day Game than night game.</p>
<p>There are a lot of venue considerations in <a title="Introduction to Day Game" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/audio/vol-50-intro-to-day-game-soul-bonsai&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=246" target="_blank">Day Game</a> (see below), but in many situations, particularly in street game, it can come across as really bizarre to stop a random girl and ask her opinion on something. In a bar, you could feasibly be having a conversation with your mates, and want to ask someone nearby their opinion, but in the daytime it comes across as less congruent. Direct openers work fantastically well on the street, e.g. &#8220;Excuse me, I just saw you walking past and thought you looked absolutely beautiful! I know this is really forward of me but I just had to say hello. How are you?&#8221; Direct Openers are also massively important for moving sets. Contrary to what most people think, it is ridiculously easy to stop moving sets (most of my sets are girls walking past me), you just need to be committed enough to your Direct opener. When you open a moving set, stop, plant yourself right on the ground where you are and deliver the opener. Do NOT start moving as they are moving, wait for them to stop. If they don&#8217;t stop, it will be creepy to follow them.</p>
<p>3. Day Game involves a greater variety of venues than night game. These venues are mainly differentiated by the levels of Social Pressure they involve.</p>
<p>You have the streets (my favourite), cafés, bookstores, art galleries, college campuses etc. Every venue or situation is slightly different, so you will need to develop good social calibration so you don&#8217;t creep girls out. The biggest factor to be aware of is Social Pressure. The more other people can listen to your interaction with a woman, the higher the Social Pressure will be, and the more potentially uncomfortable the girl will feel. In high social pressure situations, your job is three-fold. First, don&#8217;t go too Direct, either open indirectly or tone down your Direct opener (e.g. &#8220;That&#8217;s a lovely dress, how you doing?&#8221;). Second, have a strong frame of feeling comfortable in the interaction. The strongest frame always wins: You feeling comfortable talking to her will make her relax. If you are nervous, she will start to feel uncomfortable. The truth is, feeling this comfortable only comes with time and practice. But remember, she can&#8217;t see how you feel inside, only how you act on the outside. Third, make her laugh. If you can tease her or otherwise make her laugh within the first thirty seconds of the interaction, she will instantly relax &#8211; the interaction is then suddenly a fun bit of banter with a stranger instead of being accosted by some creepy guy on the subway.</p>
<p>4. Super hot girls are MUCH easier to open in the daytime.</p>
<p>You know how the super hot girls get hit on a lot in bars and clubs? There is one reason why: Alcohol. It normally starts happening after everyone is liquored up. In the sober light of day (and without all their buddies to back up their testosterone levels), most guys are shit scared of the uber hottie walking down the street. They will gawp at her, but God forbid they summon the stones to go up to her and say hello. Direct game works really well in the daytime with super hotties. You&#8217;ll be surprised at how many of them will turn around to you and say, &#8220;Oh my God, that&#8217;s so nice of you, no one has ever stopped me on the street to say that!&#8221;</p>
<p>5. You can get into Comfort much more quickly in Day Game than night game.</p>
<p>The fact that you have approached her in the daytime already demonstrates a lot of value; if you went Direct (good on ya!), then this is even more pronounced. Attraction building should happen in a matter of minutes. As soon as she&#8217;s laughing and enjoying the interaction, stop thinking about attraction and start thinking about qualifying and building comfort. You&#8217;ll need to escalate things as part of this. The easiest way to escalate the interaction on the street is to ask her which way she is headed, and suggest that you walk with her for a few minutes to chat. You can add in a, &#8220;I don&#8217;t want go dress shopping or anything like that with you though &#8211; that would be kinda gay &#8211; so I&#8217;ll probably head off in a few minutes!&#8221; This works exactly like a false time constraint. You are reducing the pressure in the situation.</p>
<p>6. Day Game approaches are often less expected by women and can take them by surprise.</p>
<p>This is a double edged sword. On the one hand, as mentioned above it causes guys to have more anxiety when daytime approaching, and they sometimes equate the surprise that girls will get with her being weirded out. On the other hand, because she is surprised, you have just spiked her emotions and therefore, if you run the interaction well, this turns into a massive positive for you. Not to mention that fact that very rarely do guys approach women on the street, so when you do approach her she will be more impressed and more likely to remember you positively (therefore LESS likely to flake than a night game set). The best way to handle the surprise/shock factor she may experience (especially if you use a Direct opener) is to acknowledge the situation, e.g. &#8220;I know this is really forward of me&#8230; but I was going to regret it all day if I didn&#8217;t stop you and say hello,&#8221; or, &#8220;This is very bold of me, but I thought you looked absolutely stunning, and I don&#8217;t believe in letting opportunities pass you by.&#8221;</p>
<p>7. It is harder to get a Same Day Lay than a Same Night Lay.</p>
<p>The reason why this is true is because of logistics, not because of social conventions (which is what you might have expected). If your game is good enough, you can bend social conventions to your whim, but once you get good, the biggest problem you spend most of your time overcoming is logistics. The fact is, girls will tend to be more busy and in the middle of doing other things in the daytime, so often you will only be able to take a phone number, build some comfort, and then move on. However, this doesn&#8217;t mean you shouldn&#8217;t be on the lookout for Same Day Lays!! In the ideal situation, you meet the girl and take her on a series of venue changes than end up back at your place. More commonly, there will be an &#8220;interrupt&#8221;, where she has to go home to eat or meet friends etc. In these cases you can still try to get her to come out to a party with you that night. Guys, you need to get out of the mentality that Day Game is just about taking phone numbers: You are trying to seduce these women not just get their digits. Set up the instant date if you can (e.g. take her for a coffee, then a drink, then a walk, then your place), or arrange to meet her later that day if you can. As mentioned above though, this all depends on what else she has got going on that day. Welcome to the wonderful world of logistical management!</p>
<p>8. You often have less time to demonstrate value to the girl than in night game.</p>
<p>Some girls you open will be in a rush to get somewhere, just about to meet friends, or may not have the time or inclination to talk to a random (albeit fun and interesting) stranger in the middle of the day. Because you are not in a bar, chances are she is not going to see you talking to other people (i.e. no opportunity for social proof). In the daytime therefore, you typically have a very small window of opportunity to make a good first impression: You must present yourself as well as humanly possible. Leave the house ready to meet women. Wear nice clothes, style your hair, and wear good shoes (don&#8217;t wear your tatty trainers, homeboy). All of these things will encourage her to response positively to her when you stop her in the middle of the street.</p>
<p>9. Groups of women seem more difficult to approach even though they really are not.</p>
<p>It is not true that you can&#8217;t run Direct Game on groups of women, and it is not true that you can&#8217;t open groups of women in the daytime. Your strategy with a group should be either to pull all of them to another venue with you (typically again, there will be an interrupt, but you can invite them somewhere later that night), or to open the girl you want, build some comfort with the whole group (so they approve of you and allow you to pick up the girl you want), and then start escalating with your chosen girl. Escalation in front of the group might be as simple as taking her number, finding out some stuff about her and qualifying her a little.</p>
<p>This of course is not everything there is to know about Day Game, but I&#8217;ve covered some of the most salient points here that I think a lot of people miss about this fine art.</p>
<p>The most important thing guys, is to take action. I have gone out with so many people who excel in night game, but choke in the daytime. You need to be willing to take action TODAY, not tomorrow, not the day after. Procrastination is the world&#8217;s greatest sin. You will find that once you force yourself to open a few daytime sets, your skills and experience in other areas will rapidly transfer across. It&#8217;s just being willing to burst through that barrier.</p>
<p>To find out more information on day game, check out this <a title="Introduction to Day Game" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/audio/vol-50-intro-to-day-game-soul-bonsai&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=246" target="_blank">audio download</a> by Love Systems day game experts Jeremy Soul and Bonsai. The first 10 minutes are free.</p>
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Introduction
If meeting women in the daytime is something you&#8217;re interested in then this primer is for you. It contains the basic information on day game that I present at most bootcamps I instruct at. In my opinion, this is what you need to know to get out there and start meeting people outside of a [...]


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<h3>Introduction</h3>
<p>If meeting women in the daytime is something you&#8217;re interested in then this primer is for you. It contains the basic information on day game that I present at most bootcamps I instruct at. In my opinion, this is what you need to know to get out there and start meeting people outside of a nightclub environment.</p>
<h3>Opening</h3>
<p>I find the greatest consistency and satisfaction using direct openers such as:</p>
<p>&#8216;Excuse me, I saw you from over there.and I&#8217;d regret it all day if I didn&#8217;t come met you.because you look absolutely gorgeous.(EXTEND HAND TO SHAKE) Hi, I&#8217;m Keychain, what&#8217;s your name?&#8217;</p>
<p>Direct openers like this (recently popularized by Sebastian Drake, Soul, Dr.Yen etc.) usually open quite strongly and provide a good platform for you to launch the conversation from. At the very least, it&#8217;s nice to say nice things to people &#8211; it&#8217;ll make you feel good and give her positive emotions too.</p>
<p>There&#8217;s nothing wrong with starting a conversation in another style such as indirect, functional, comedic etc. There are lots of examples of these types of openers online and you&#8217;ll want to come up with your own as the situation dictates. Here are a few to get you started:</p>
<p>- &#8216;Hey do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?&#8217;</p>
<p>- She&#8217;s reading a book: &#8216;What are you reading?&#8217;</p>
<p>- She&#8217;s wearing head/earphones: &#8216;What are you listening to? I&#8217;m bored of my current playlist&#8217; (credit Sasha) &#8211; take her iPod and start teasing/appreciating her playlist (my addition).</p>
<p>- She&#8217;s in a shop or coffee house, deliver with comedy: &#8216;I saw you from out there and had to come meet you. I just couldn&#8217;t let a pane of glass stand between us and true love.&#8217; (Credit Sasha)</p>
<p>If the girl is sat or stationary, you can just walk over to her and deliver your opener. If she&#8217;s moving, I&#8217;ll always approach from behind, even if it means letting her walk past to get my angle.</p>
<p>To stop a moving set, approach from behind and touch the inside of the elbow gently with two fingers. You can also touch the triceps area or the back of the forearm. Say &#8216;excuse me&#8217; to get her attention, stop walking as she turns towards you and then deliver your opener.</p>
<p>To further stop her forward momentum and start the transition to conversation, extend your hand to shake hers. Give your name and ask for hers. She will, as most people would, automatically shake your hand and give you her name. From here, you&#8217;re ready to transition.</p>
<h3>A Common Trap With Direct Openers</h3>
<p>Don&#8217;t try to solicit a reaction. So many guys get addicted to the big, gushing reactions that you will occasionally get from your direct approaches and &#8216;look&#8217; for it every time. Instead of being an expression of their personality and core intent, the direct opener becomes a tool to chase a reaction.they deliver it and wait for the big WOW! It&#8217;s approval-seeking and not attractive.</p>
<p>Try this frame: Her beauty/vibe/aura moved you to approach. Something in your core just said &#8216;yes&#8217;. So you&#8217;re going to go meet her, express your core and see if she&#8217;s the kind of girl you might connect with and would like in your life. Self-expression, without the need for approval, mixed with a curious fascination for her as a unique creature.</p>
<h3>Transition to Conversation</h3>
<p>After opening, I like to stack and cycle through the following transition material until I find a topic that you&#8217;re both interested in and can naturally talk about together (what Sebastian Drake calls a &#8216;click topic&#8217;). Perhaps you both enjoy traveling or you both like the movies of a certain director.</p>
<p>To that end, here are three content-questions that you can ask to mine for a click topic.</p>
<p>1) What are doing in London/Oslo/Melrose today? (this also allows you to find out how much time you might have to talk. If she&#8217;s rushing to meet friends, better go for the number. If she&#8217;s just &#8217;shopping&#8217;, you might try for an instant-date later in the conversation)</p>
<p>2) What do you do for a living?</p>
<p>3) What do you do for fun?</p>
<p>As recommended by Wayne Elise, these can either be delivered statement/question or question/statement. In other words, you might start by talking about what you&#8217;re doing in central London and then ask her what she&#8217;s up to (statement/question). Or you might ask her first and then answer your own question when she&#8217;s done (question/statement). Either way, be prepared to supply the initial content and energy of the interaction.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not unusual for a person to be a little on-guard when approached by a stranger in the street or a coffee shop and give quite short answers. Allow her initial shyness, she&#8217;ll warm up as your statements build comfort and convey your attractive personality.</p>
<p>Another conversation technique I enjoy is to talk about a character trait I enjoy, explain why I enjoy it and then ask her if she has it. I came up with this by combining Mr.M&#8217;s ideas about high-value frame attraction and Sebastian Drake&#8217;s &#8216;click topics&#8217;. This &#8217;soft qualification&#8217; is a great way to add value to a conversation and qualify in a high-value way. The more astute among you may recognize some sexual framing in this material also. Lately I&#8217;ve been teaching this at a lot of bootcamps and the results have been so encouraging that I recommend you add this technique to your arsenal.</p>
<p>For example:</p>
<p>&#8216;I really like people who travel, I love to travel myself. There&#8217;s something about people who travel.there&#8217;s an open-mindedness to new experiences and a non-judgmental quality that I really like. Do you like to travel?&#8217;</p>
<p>&#8216;I like to surround myself with creative people. They have an energy and a fresh way of looking at life that really energizes me. What do you do for fun?&#8217;</p>
<p>If you can&#8217;t find a click topic, consider that perhaps the two of you have nothing to click on and are better off moving on to meet other people. With practice, however, you&#8217;ll find you can find a way to connect with almost anyone you meet. Remember to listen with curiosity and interest.</p>
<h3>Thoughts on Conversation</h3>
<p>All the principles of social interaction you&#8217;ll find in Magic Bullets and the other materials are relevant here. On top of these, I&#8217;d suggest focusing on glimpsing the girl underneath her social facade and being open enough for her to get a glimpse of you under yours.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s easy to view interactions with girls as a &#8216;game&#8217; in which you say certain things, touch your &#8216;target&#8217; in a certain way to either win or lose the game. This kind of thinking serves to dehumanize the girl who is, after all, a unique person just like you. What if the simple meeting of both of your personalities, opinions and experiences could provide enough content for an attractive, successful conversation?</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t forget to be fun and humorous. Tease a little to inject some spice, have fun with the conversation. There&#8217;s no need to be intense and serious all the time &#8211; in fact, this can be quite creepy! Try a fun role play or future projection, experiment with the attraction materials in Magic Bullets to spice things up. Beware of making these the focus of your content though, remember that you and her are enough to have a great conversation.</p>
<p>Find your own style of interaction. When you meet a man who is successful with girls, by all means copy his style but only to gain an understanding of the underlying principles that make him so successful. Don&#8217;t be a clone, you&#8217;ll get much better results as a great version of you.</p>
<h3>Taking Things Further</h3>
<p>Where can you take the conversation after you&#8217;re clicking and enjoying one another? Depending on the logistics of the situation, you might try these options:</p>
<p>- suggest a future meeting and exchange contact details.</p>
<p>- suggest going to get a coffee right then and there.</p>
<p>- my first day game approach ended with a hand job in a nearby photo-booth. You could shoot for this if the mood strikes.</p>
<h3>Conclusion</h3>
<p>The skill of meeting people and having great conversations is a vast one with room for a lifetime of learning and experimentation. It&#8217;s a lot of fun and comes with lots of benefits, not least all of the beautiful women you&#8217;ll meet!</p>
<p>With this basic information you&#8217;ve got all you need to start meeting girls in the daytime. The most important thing you could do with what you&#8217;ve read is start applying it in real conversations.</p>
<p>To find out more information on day game, check out this <a title="Introduction to Day Game" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/audio/vol-50-intro-to-day-game-soul-bonsai&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=246" target="_blank">audio download</a> by day game experts Jeremy Soul and Bonsai. The first 10 minutes are free.</p>
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Once I started learning Love Systems, I was actually able to pull beautiful women home to my place. But in the meantime, I also got good at making things work by going back to her place. Here are four tips for closing at her place.
1) Find out where she lives.
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<p>Once I started learning <a title="Love Systems" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=74" target="_blank">Love Systems</a>, I was actually able to pull beautiful women home to my place. But in the meantime, I also got good at making things work by going back to her place. Here are four tips for closing at her place.</p>
<h3>1) Find out where she lives.</h3>
<p>This step seems obvious, but you&#8217;d be surprised how often it is unintentionally left out. When you know where a woman lives, you can plan ahead to deal with the logistical problems you&#8217;re going to hit later.</p>
<p>Does she live near the venue? Does she have a roommate? Is she in a dorm? Do you know of a cool bar/after hours joint near her place? When you want to bounce her back there, are you going to drive, walk, or take a cab? Even if you end up with a phone number + date instead of going home with her, this info will be useful for when you go out again.</p>
<p>Here are a few scenarios to consider, and ways I&#8217;ve figured out how to deal with them.</p>
<p>* Roommates: When there is a separate bedroom to retreat to, sacrificing a few minutes of conversation to win over the roommate(s) will make your being there a lot more comfortable. After they trust you, you can use any nonsense reason to bounce your girl to her bedroom. &#8220;Bet my room is cleaner than yours,&#8221; is one example.</p>
<p>* Cab ride: If she lives a cab ride away, be sure to keep up the momentum in the car, and continue to build up physical intimacy. If you were touching her arm in the bar, touch her leg in the cab. If you were about to make out in the bar, make out in the cab. Avoid cabs with bucket seats that make physical contact impossible.</p>
<p>* Dorm: If there&#8217;s a security guard, you can go through the lengthy (and vibe-killing) process of giving him your ID and signing in, or you can tell the girl to slide her card through and sneak in behind her. You get points for being resourceful, and it&#8217;s exciting because it seems like you&#8217;re doing something wrong.</p>
<p>* Shared bedroom: There are public bathrooms in dorms and hotels that I have found very accommodating when dealing with shared room situations. Be sure and scan for them when entering, and when it&#8217;s time to bounce to it, tell the girl that you&#8217;re &#8220;taking her on a field trip.&#8221;</p>
<h3>2) Amp up the physical tension.</h3>
<p>This is a huge topic that lots of Love Systems instructors have gone into incredible detail on, but the general principle is important. If you can get a girl sexually excited, then she&#8217;s going to want to bring you to a place where you can have sex as quickly as humanly possible. At Love Systems we teach everything you need to know to accomplish this goal, from framing the conversation sexually to escalating things physically, but in the meantime here are a few quick pointers to get you started:</p>
<p>* Always end a touch or kiss before they do/want you to.</p>
<p>* Drop the topic of sex into conversation (in a light, joking way) as quickly as possible.</p>
<p>* Start touching the way you&#8217;d touch your boss and build to the way you&#8217;d touch a girlfriend.</p>
<h3>3) &#8220;Let&#8217;s get you home.&#8221;</h3>
<p>It&#8217;s easy to think of reasons to give a woman why she has to come back to your place. Keep it simple. &#8220;Let me show you that book I was talking about,&#8221; is perfect. It gives her plausible deniability and doesn&#8217;t tip your hand.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s harder to do this with her place. &#8220;Do you want to take me home with you?&#8221; makes you sound like a stray dog, not a man. &#8220;Let&#8217;s go to your place&#8221; is totally cliché thanks to every movie from the 1970s. &#8220;Let&#8217;s get out of here&#8221; is great if it&#8217;s obvious and explicit that she wants to have sex, but if you&#8217;re still flying a bit under the radar or her friends are around, you&#8217;re going to need something a little more subtle.</p>
<p>Instead, take the lead with &#8220;let&#8217;s get you home.&#8221; It&#8217;s a little dominant, it shows you know how to lead, but it also doesn&#8217;t trigger state breaks. If her friends are around, it implies that you are just going to make sure that she gets home safe. She shouldn&#8217;t feel any pressure since there&#8217;s really nothing implied. And if nothing&#8217;s going to happen, then there&#8217;s no reason she can&#8217;t bail on her friends, right?</p>
<p>(If you don&#8217;t remember state breaks, review Chapter 10 of <a title="Magic Bullets" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/magic-bullets/&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=73" target="_blank">Magic Bullets</a> now. If you haven&#8217;t read <a title="Magic Bullets" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/magic-bullets/&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=73" target="_blank">Magic Bullets</a>, get it. It&#8217;s the official Love Systems guide to meeting and attracting women, and where most successful guys start. Get it.)</p>
<h3>4) Assume you&#8217;re going upstairs.</h3>
<p>There&#8217;s nothing more awkward than walking a woman home and standing there silent for an eternity waiting for her to invite you up. Avoid this situation by assuming that she&#8217;ll be bringing you upstairs. Do not pause by the door. Do not say &#8220;Well, it was nice hanging out with you.&#8221; Keep the momentum of the interaction going as though you are still in the process of hanging out.</p>
<p>If she has to invite you in, that&#8217;s risking a state break.</p>
<p>Of course, there will be times when she suggests that you don&#8217;t come up, either because she doesn&#8217;t want to appear easy, or because she thinks letting you upstairs is an implicit agreement that you&#8217;ll be sleeping together. You can usually defuse this by giving yourself a bedtime. &#8220;I&#8217;ve got work in the morning, so I can only come up for a little bit&#8221; is one of my favorites. Say this before she even gets a chance to tell you why you can&#8217;t come in &#8211; like you coming in is a foregone conclusion.</p>
<p>To find out more information on closing at the girl&#8217;s place or getting a girl from the venue back to your place, definitely <a title="Logistics Interview Series" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/audio/vol-33-logistics-taking-a-girl-out-of-a-bar-soul-johnny-wolf&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=157" target="_self">checkout the interview series on Logistics</a>.</p>
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I&#8217;m going to add something here, that you should do EVERY SINGLE MONTH, at least, maybe every week.
I still get value from this exercise, and it takes very little time. However, just knowing this exercise won&#8217;t help, you have to actually DO IT.
Take one piece of A4. At the top write &#8220;I see a hot [...]


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<p>I&#8217;m going to add something here, that you should do EVERY SINGLE MONTH, at least, maybe every week.</p>
<p>I still get value from this exercise, and it takes very little time. However, just knowing this exercise won&#8217;t help, you have to actually DO IT.</p>
<p>Take one piece of A4. At the top write &#8220;I see a hot girl&#8221;. At the bottom write: &#8220;we start having sex&#8221; (or &#8220;she says &#8216;I do&#8217;&#8221;, or whatever your actual outcome is).</p>
<p>Then fill in a plausible and detailed explanation of how you got from seeing this chick to being balls deep. Whenever you get to a point where you&#8217;re not sure what to write, you&#8217;ve found a sticking point.</p>
<p>For the VAST majority of guys I&#8217;ve met, this will be:</p>
<p>&#8220;I see a hot girl. I go and run some opinion opener from the internet on her. Then, uh.. um. Maybe I tease her? Uh, and, uh.&#8221;</p>
<p>BANG. Sticking point identified. Do some research at this point. What comes next? Post a question to the forum. Ask someone what should happen next.</p>
<p>You don&#8217;t need to work out the best thing to say &#8211; you&#8217;re not looking for lines to memorize, and you&#8217;re not looking for some kind of magical routine &#8211; it&#8217;ll never go down the way you&#8217;ve planned it anyway. You&#8217;re looking for an understanding of a plausible next step. Don&#8217;t accept answers like &#8220;Then you be an alpha male and she fucks you&#8221; &#8211; not good enough. Ask for specific sample dialogue. Don&#8217;t try and replicate those, don&#8217;t try and parrot that shit off, but use them to get an understanding of what and why happens next.</p>
<p>As my own example, the first time I did this, I got to: &#8220;we&#8217;re making out in the club&#8221;, and I was like WTF happens next? So I asked a natural buddy, and he said: &#8220;Last time I just told the girl I&#8217;d make her a cocktail back at mine&#8221;.</p>
<p>What did I do? I went out and spent a far too much money on cocktail alcohol and equipment. Next time I went out, I was making out with this girl, and was like: &#8220;So, uh, do you want a cocktail back at mine?&#8221;. Answer: &#8220;No&#8221;. DOH! Asked for more advice on this, was told to make the bounce home gentler and less obvious &#8230; and with time, got that shit sorted. Learning how to bounce was a massive sticking point for me, and I hadn&#8217;t even realised it &#8211; once I had that sorted, I started having a one-night stand. The point being: you won&#8217;t get this stuff right first time, but a plausible idea of how to go about it is crucial</p>
<p>Do I use some long-winded and complicated extraction technique now? No, of course not. Now I instinctively know how to bounce, instinctively know the subtleties, and tend to just say: &#8220;ok, we&#8217;re out of here!&#8221;. But the identification of the sticking point through the above exercise (and subsequent ones), the focus on actually closing and getting from A to B is what started accelerating my game.</p>
<p>Key points:</p>
<p>* Write personal, detailed, and fictional descriptions of how you went from seeing a girl to fucking her to help you get the process straight in your head, and identify your weak points</p>
<p>* Ask for advice any time you find yourself having trouble writing plausible dialogue or action sequences</p>
<p>* The point isn&#8217;t to prescript the interaction, the point is to identify your sticking points in getting from A to B &#8211; it won&#8217;t ever go down the way you planned anyway</p>
<p>* Don&#8217;t accept wishy-washy advice that doesn&#8217;t come with plausible detailed examples</p>
<p>Hope this helps &#8211; just reading it won&#8217;t though &#8211; actually TRY IT.</p>
<p>To find out more on overcoming sticking points, check out the <a title="Sticking Points" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/audio/vol-27-sticking-points-braddock-rokker-mr-m&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=151" target="_blank">interview series on sticking points</a>.</p>
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I hate Valentine&#8217;s Day. Then again, thinking about it, I hate most holidays but Valentine&#8217;s Day is definitely one of the most hated. And I&#8217;d venture a guess that I&#8217;m not alone in that. Listen to single women anywhere and you&#8217;ll hear mumblings and grumblings about it for a variety of reasons.
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<p>I hate Valentine&#8217;s Day. Then again, thinking about it, I hate most holidays but Valentine&#8217;s Day is definitely one of the most hated. And I&#8217;d venture a guess that I&#8217;m not alone in that. Listen to single women anywhere and you&#8217;ll hear mumblings and grumblings about it for a variety of reasons.</p>
<p>It certainly reminds us single girls, as if we need reminding, that we&#8217;re single. Everywhere we go we are reminded with pink and red hearts and boquets of roses and sappy love songs. It&#8217;s quite honestly enough to make a girl want to gag. So how to survive such a nasty day?</p>
<p>Paige Parker, who wants to make sure you are <a title="Dating Without Drama" href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=870039" target="_blank">Dating Without Drama</a>, gives these 5 great tips for surviving Valentine&#8217;s Day whether you&#8217;re a single girl hating the holiday or in a relationship and stressed out by the pressure of it all.</p>
<h3>5. TREAT V-DAY LIKE ANY OTHER SUNDAY.</h3>
<p>As a teacher, I am constantly reminding my students not to make things harder than they are. Apparently grown-ass women need the same reminder&#8230;yours truly included. It&#8217;s just a Sunday like any other Sunday on the planet. Don&#8217;t make it harder than it is. As <a title="Dating Without Drama" href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=870039" target="_blank">Paige</a> says, &#8220;There is absolutely no correlation between your self-worth and how cool your social plans are during one lousy 24-hour period.&#8221; None.</p>
<h3>4. SHARE YOUR LOVE WITH THOSE IN NEED.</h3>
<p>Since Valentine&#8217;s Day about spreading the love, why not keep yourself busy (and NOT thinking about what day it is) and do some good all at the same time. V-Day is a perfect day to volunteer out in the community. Besides, maybe that hot guy volunteering next to you is single. Who knows?</p>
<h3>3. DATE YOURSELF.</h3>
<p>Just because you don&#8217;t have a date with a man doesn&#8217;t mean you can&#8217;t have a date with you. Seriously, if you don&#8217;t want to hang out with yourself, why would a man want to hang out with you. Arrange an amazing day/evening just for you. Get a massage, order from your favorite restaurant, and watch your favorite movie. Bottom line? Have fun and pamper yourself.</p>
<h3>2. HOST A GIRLS&#8217;-NIGHT-IN.</h3>
<p>Think you&#8217;re the only single girl you know dreading Valentine&#8217;s Day? Think again. I&#8217;m sure your single girlfriends are dreading it just as much as you are. Why not invite them over for a night of drinks, movies, commiseration and laughter. It&#8217;s much more fun to spending the evening with your girls having a good time than sitting on the couch watching Titanic while you drown your sorrows with your cats.</p>
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There are 101 things that you can do tonight that can make your woman’s blood boil a little hotter. A lot of men think immediately that this involves new and difficult sex positions or even the use of sexual aids but really, just KNOWING which pleasure buttons to hit is all it takes. Read on!
Now…to [...]


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<p>There are 101 things that you can do tonight that can make your woman’s blood boil a little hotter. A lot of men think immediately that this involves new and difficult sex positions or even the use of sexual aids but really, just KNOWING which pleasure buttons to hit is all it takes. Read on!</p>
<p>Now…to know how to hit those buttons properly, check out my tips at: <a title="Female Orgasms Revealed" href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=882692" target="_blank">Female Orgasms Revealed</a></p>
<h3>Foreplay Buttons</h3>
<p>One: While making out, make sure your lips and tongue give attention to your lover’s neck. Ok, a lot of men know that already and you’ve probably applied that technique yourself… but what about that soft and tender patch of skin in front of her ears?!? While kissing or licking this soft area, whisper something sweet or something lewd! Now that will get your girl going.</p>
<p>Two: Break away from kissing her just a bit and then lick her lips. While licking her lips oh so gently, whisper that you can’t wait to lick her down there too!</p>
<p>Three: Just when she’s wet and panting, glide your hand down there and caress her through her undies. And then say something with the word ‘soaking’ in your sentence.</p>
<p>Four: Make your way to the bed and as she’s lying there, deliberately get off the bed and put some distance between the two of you. Now undress, making sure she sees exactly how turned on you are. You don’t need to engage in full-on self-play but touching yourself once or twice to show how long you are for her is a good idea.</p>
<p>Five: As she lays down naked in bed, run a silk tie or silk scarf all over her. Now ask her to turn around and this time, as the silk tie or scarf runs over her spine, follow it up with your hot tongue.</p>
<p>Six: Instead of a striptease, why not ask your lover for a ‘bed dance’ instead? This is when she dances completely naked all over you as you like completely naked on your back. Have her sashay all over your face, chest, and yes, down there.</p>
<p>Seven: While giving oral, place a pillow under her to elevate her mound. This will give you more access, and her, more pleasure.</p>
<p>Eight: While out on a weekend drive, pull over somewhere semi-secluded and then ask her to pleasure you or bend down and suck on her breasts.</p>
<p>Check out the newest techniques to give a woman an orgasm! I bet she has never experienced them. Go to: <a title="Female Orgasms Revealed" href="http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=882692" target="_blank">Female Orgasms Revealed</a></p>
<h3>New Twists on Old Games…</h3>
<p>One: Instead of the standard 69 position, why not place your manhood between her breasts instead while you guys in this position.</p>
<p>Two: Or why not do the ‘inverted 69’. This is when she sits on you but instead of using your mouth on your manhood. She sits up and uses her hands on you instead.</p>
<p>Three: This time, while she’s on top, ask her NOT to remove her clothes. Instead, lift up her t-shirt or lingerie every now and then so you can get a ‘peak’ at what you’re doing down there.</p>
<p>Four: Take her from behind but instead of being on your knees, do this lying down. The pleasure will be more intense!</p>
<p>Five: Don’t be shy to ‘rough each other up’ once in a while! So tonight, don’t go to your bedroom; don’t even lie down. Do it against a wall with your clothes still on and just about 10 minutes before somebody is due to visit you! The roughness, the wildness, and the thrill of being caught with your pants down – literally! – will make this the hottest sex ever!</p>
<p>Six: While she’s on the ‘woman on top’ position, ask her to SLOWLY turn around (face your feet instead). As she does this, stay as unmoving as you can in bed. This will enable you to feel every inch of her on your manhood as she twists and turns.</p>
<p>Seven: Morning sex is so underrated! Tomorrow morning, why not engage in slow sensual sex OR take her rough over the bathroom sink as she tries to brush her teeth!</p>
<p>There you have it. There’s lots of ways you can increase the hotness meter in your bedroom (or elsewhere) without having to engage in anything you may consider *taboo*. Just let your imagination run a little wild and just go with it! You never know what reaction you’ll get from your partner until you try.</p>
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		<title>Interview with Nick Savoy on The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game</title>
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Nick Savoy is President and Program Leader of Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method). We are interviewing him today on the upcoming book The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game that is coming out January 21st, 2010.
The name of the book speaks for itself, but can you give us an idea what we can expect?
Sure. [...]


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<p>Nick Savoy is President and Program Leader of Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method). We are interviewing him today on the upcoming book The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game that is coming out January 21st, 2010.</p>
<h3>The name of the book speaks for itself, but can you give us an idea what we can expect?</h3>
<p>Sure. We have noticed from years teaching Love Systems that most beginners and intermediate guys all run into the same problem: turning phone numbers into dates. They start to get good at building attraction and getting phone numbers, but these phone numbers don&#8217;t go anywhere.</p>
<p>All over the forums we see the same topic over and over again. Guys getting phone numbers but the women never respond to their calls and/or text messages. So we saw a challenge to fix this problem and Braddock took the initiative by writing The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game with co-editor Mr M and help of more Love Systems instructors.</p>
<p>The book has over 160 pages of content on how to turn phone numbers into dates and preventing flaky phone numbers. We address a lot of commonly asked problems when it comes to phone and text game, including:</p>
<p>-What is the best way to ask for a phone number?</p>
<p>-Should you call or text first?</p>
<p>-What should I text a girl for the first time?</p>
<p>-When is the best time to call a girl?</p>
<p>-What are some of the do&#8217;s and don&#8217;ts of calling and texting?</p>
<p>And many more. You can read some text message interactions our team of instructors has had that led to dates. We also have a lot of unpublished stock text lines, role plays, and techniques to sexualize a text conversation.</p>
<h3>What is the most common mistake most guys make with phone and text game?</h3>
<p>There are a bunch of them but I will give you two. First, a phone number in itself is not worth much. It is merely a tool you can use to meet up with the girl you are interested in. When you want to seriously date a woman, your goal should be to start a sexual relationship as soon as possible. Whether you take her home the same night from the bar or from your first date, start that sexual relationship as soon as possible. Like Jeremy Soul says, a relationship does not start till you two have slept with each other.</p>
<p>So getting a phone number should not be one of your goals or something you want to settle for. There are exceptions of course like when she is the designated driver for her three friends or when you meet a woman in the day time. In the latter case you will most likely settle for a phone number and then go on a date. However, in both cases if you have the chance to push the interaction that could end in sleeping with each other, take it.</p>
<p>Another common mistake is not making plans when you get the phone number. A lot of guys will say something like &#8220;let&#8217;s hangout&#8221; or &#8220;let&#8217;s go out sometime&#8221; and then go for the phone number. At that moment, she might have wanted to hang out with you or gone out with you but then the next day she might not feel the same. Instead, before you get a woman&#8217;s phone number you should try to set plans with her to go out. So you could say something like &#8220;What days are you off? Thursday.perfect. Let&#8217;s go out Thursday night for some drinks.&#8221; As a result of setting up the date you then get the phone number.</p>
<p>Setting up a date is like a transaction and the receipt of the transaction is the phone number. Just doing this will reduce the amount of flaky phone numbers.</p>
<h3>Can you ever turn a flaky phone number into a date?</h3>
<p>Short answer: yes. In the book Braddock explains his Dynamite Theory how you can turn flaky phone numbers into dates.</p>
<p>The basic idea is that every girl will have to be treated differently based on how she initially responds to your phone calls and/or text messages. If the girl is very responsive you want to meet up as soon as possible.</p>
<p>On the other end of the spectrum, if the girl does not respond to your first call or text message you need to adjust your phone &amp; text game. You need to slowly increase the intensity and frequency of communication (all explained in the book with stock field tested texts and voicemails).</p>
<p>If there is one piece of advice you could give a new guy for tonight, what would it be?</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t settle for the phone number. Push the interaction as far as you can. Once you really know there is absolutely no way you can take the girl back home, only then try to setup a date and get her phone number.</p>
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Have you ever sat and wondered to yourself why women want the &#8216;jerk&#8217;&#8230;?
Or have you looked at friends / acquaintances relationships&#8217; and been unable to understand why that smoking hot girl is still with that guy who treats her like shit&#8230;?
And thought to yourself, if she could only see how sweet and nice you are [...]


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<p>Have you ever sat and wondered to yourself why women want the &#8216;jerk&#8217;&#8230;?</p>
<p>Or have you looked at friends / acquaintances relationships&#8217; and been unable to understand why that smoking hot girl is still with that guy who treats her like shit&#8230;?</p>
<p>And thought to yourself, if she could only see how sweet and nice you are she would want you&#8230;?</p>
<p>This is perhaps the number 1 question I&#8217;m asked on pretty much every bootcamp I&#8217;ve instructed on.</p>
<p>Let&#8217;s start from the beginning &#8211; I am NOT going to tell you to stop being *a* nice guy, what we are going to deal with is why women don&#8217;t want *the* nice guy.</p>
<p>The major difference between the two is this; *the* nice guy EMOTIONALLY OVERREACHES.</p>
<p>Some examples of this:</p>
<p>* &#8230;*the* nice guy turns up to a first coffee date with flowers &amp; chocolates.</p>
<p>* &#8230;*the* nice guy tries to be &#8216;friends&#8217; with a girl he likes, hoping that it can turn into something else when she  sees what a nice guy he is.</p>
<p>* &#8230;*the* nice guy puts up with her bullshit even if it crosses his boundaries e.g. answers to phone to her at 3am to hear her crying about how her jerk boyfriend has cheated on her only to find out shes back with him the next week.</p>
<p>Before we start, let me say officially: women don&#8217;t want jerks. They do, however, want, enjoy and even need, the emotions the &#8216;jerk&#8217; guy can give them. Before anyone takes me the wrong way let me clarify what I mean by &#8216;nice&#8217;</p>
<p>&#8216;Nice&#8217; = boring</p>
<p>&#8216;Nice&#8217; = neutral</p>
<p>&#8216;Nice&#8217; = no challenge</p>
<p>&#8216;Nice&#8217; is kindness with an agenda, you&#8217;re doing something for someone with the expectation of getting something back, and it&#8217;s not just girls that can smell this a mile off. Ever been in a position of power or authority and had people suck up to you to leech your value? Not a nice feeling is it.</p>
<p>Would you want a woman like this? I suspect not.</p>
<p>By constantly supplicating and acceding to everything she asks of you, you become dull, uninteresting &amp; not a challenge. Saying this, make sure you don&#8217;t go and become the asshole jerk &#8211; being a polar at anything in pick up, and life in general, is a bad idea. You don&#8217;t want to be the suck up good guy constantly, and you don&#8217;t want to be the unavailable tease constantly either.</p>
<p>People want and need boundaries, and as such will test them; women will push you until they find yours so they know where they stand and what kind of guy you are. Braddock and Mr M discuss this in superb depth in their Inner Game seminar, (you can check out Mr M&#8217;s article on Inner Game on the Attraction Forums here)</p>
<p>If you allow her to break a boundary you consider important, for example she is mad at you for no reason and won&#8217;t give you an explanation, she will lose respect for you as she knows she can do what she wants and you will put up with it. She is also more likely to repeat this behaviour as you have set the precedent that this behaviour is acceptable.</p>
<p>The old &#8216;cat-string&#8217; theory is a great way of visualising this problem; if you tease a kitten with a piece of string it will go crazy trying to catch it and have a lot of fun in the process.</p>
<p>This was the old adage.</p>
<p>The problem is guys take this so far that they never let the kitten grab the string, which results in it getting bored. What I mean is as I said above you cant be a constant tease as she will inevitably lose interest.</p>
<p>Women LOVE confidence and dominance which nice guys NEVER exude &#8211; they are too scared of doing something she won&#8217;t like and it will result in them losing the girl.</p>
<p>Let me give you an example:</p>
<p>* *The* nice guy takes a girl on a date, she arrives and he ask where she wants to go &amp; where she wants to go. Nice guys don&#8217;t have a plan, they&#8217;re so worried about losing the girl that they will avoid making any decisions in case they upset or offend her.</p>
<p>* *A nice guy arranges to meet a girl, and when she arrives he says &#8216;OK, which do you like more, Chinese or Italian?&#8217; She says, &#8216;Chinese&#8217;. He takes her hand and says &#8216;awesome, I know this amazing Chinese, we&#8217;re going there.</p>
<p>Do you see the difference?</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t want guys reading this to lose those qualities that make them *a* nice guy &#8211; chivalry, manners, thoughtfulness etc &#8211; the fact is this; we guys have to &#8216;earn&#8217; sex from women, but women have to &#8216;earn&#8217; the nice side of you.</p>
<p>All the things I&#8217;ve listed here not to do, would be perfectly acceptable if the woman in question is a girl you&#8217;re dating or a girlfriend.</p>
<p>So how do you become this confident guy? One part of has to do with having abundance.</p>
<h3>So what exactly do I mean by abundance?</h3>
<p>Say you saved up for 10 years and bought a bar of gold bullion. It would take pride of place on your mantelpiece and you would polish it and show it off every day. BUT. If you were robbed and lost it, you would be devastated as that thing you worked so hard for has gone and you&#8217;re unlikely to get it back. you would bore your friends with stories of how this was the perfect bar and you&#8217;ll never replace it, and curse the universe for taking it away from you.</p>
<p>However, if you had hundreds of the bars and you lost one, sure it would be disappointing, but you would still have many more bars you need to polish and that would take up your time &#8211; you would get over the loss faster.</p>
<p>The same goes for women; if you have options in your dating life, your attitude will shift from being needy and clingy to that one girl, to being a lot more chilled and relaxed, should you &#8216;lose&#8217; her or if she bails on a date etc.</p>
<h3>Why is this an issue?</h3>
<p>A consistent recurring theme I hear from guys on bootcamps, and girls, I work with is that they want to know how to &#8216;get&#8217; this one special person. They focus all their time and energy on them to the exclusion of anyone else. They become the &#8216;nice&#8217; and needy guy, constantly calling / texting / facebooking / sending flowers etc her to get her attention and trying to line up dates. They take her bullshit, put up with unacceptable behaviour and are generally presenting an incredibly weak and unchallenging frame.</p>
<p>This has the net effect of you losing attraction in her eyes, as you are way too available and way too little of a challenge. I mean, how much of a cool guy can you be if you&#8217;re behaving as if she is the only girl on the planet. Refer back to the cat string analogy in the first article.</p>
<p>Society has conditioned men and women to find &#8216;the one&#8217;. The simple statistic that there are over 6 billion people alive today (source International Population Database) should surely prove that this idea is completely outrageous. The statistics are stacked in your favour that there are many women who you would want to have as a girlfriend.</p>
<p>This doesn&#8217;t mean you should never settle down, I mention it to show that until you are in a relationship with a woman, you should not focus 100% of your dating attention on her.</p>
<h3>How do I create abundance?</h3>
<p>Having abundance means you should act as if nothing is ever a &#8216;big deal&#8217;.</p>
<p>If a girl cancels a date on you and you get all crazy and angry and respond emotionally to it, then she knows you don&#8217;t have options and as such, you lose value.</p>
<p>However, if she cancels and your attitude is more &#8216;hey, no problem, I&#8217;ll call you and we&#8217;ll reschedule&#8217; &#8211; you are sub-communicating that, sure, it&#8217;s a shame you won&#8217;t be going on the date, but it&#8217;s not a massive issue, because YOU HAVE OPTIONS. Plus, you still have the ball in your court as you have said you will call her to reschedule.</p>
<p>The abundance to-do list:</p>
<p>* Fake it till you make it &#8211; Chill out, relax, if you feel the need to text a girl again before she&#8217;s replied, call a friend, play xbox, go to the gym, just go do something that distracts you from thinking about it!</p>
<p>* Go out more! &#8211; If you&#8217;re reading more than you&#8217;re going out, you won&#8217;t be meeting different women.</p>
<p>* Start going for dates instead of just collecting phone numbers &#8211; I&#8217;ve lost count of the number of guys who&#8217;ll gladly show me they have hundreds of women&#8217;s numbers, but yet no dates for the following week.</p>
<p>They don&#8217;t have to cost the earth, but should definitely be fun, exciting and different.</p>
<p>You will quickly discover that, When you are dating several times a week and one cancels, it really is no big deal as you have several other options open to you, and suddenly, the abundance &#8216;theory&#8217; has become abundance &#8216;reality&#8217;.</p>
<p>-5.0</p>
<p>If you want to find out more on how to be a nice guy who has game and get girls, check out <a title="No More Mr. Nice Guy" href="http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/audio/vol-48-no-more-mr-nice-guy-5-0-sheriff&amp;kbid=77719&amp;m=240" target="_blank">No More Mr. Nice Guy</a>.</p>


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