I first viewed this video last week as the title of it really caught my eye. This “thing” I’m trying to deal with has caused me to be angry with myself and with a former close friend. She, in fact, is a former friend because of it. My doctor told me I might have to forgive her and, while I recognize that is true, it’s much easier said than done. This video by Dr. Alex Benzer, author of The Tao of Dating : A Smart Woman’s Guide to Embracing Your Inner Goddess and Finding the Fulfillment You Deserve, helps me understand why forgiveness is so important.
A couple of things he said, really made sense to me.
If you are holding onto a bad relationship or someone did you wrong, you are not affecting that person. You are only affecting yourself.
When you let go and learn to love your enemy and recognize them as someone in need of evolution and positive energy, you become more empowered.
While I have a ways to go in forgiving, I think this will be very helpful in doing so. I also believe that doing so will help me deal with the situation better.
Thoughts?
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Blair October 19th, 2009, 10:06 am
So true. I’ve been reading a lot of Buddhist philosophy lately, and it’s all similar to Benzer’s advice. (I actually just wrote an article applying The Art of Happiness to dating http://www1.ignighter.com/Page/Magazine/ID/135/Subject/TheDalaiLama/). It’s definitely a tough mind-set, and it takes a lot of discipline to make it regular, but it works.
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