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Do We Really All Have One Soulmate? – Guest Post
By Kaci
“Who doesn’t long for someone to hold? Someone to love you without being told…somebody tell me why I’m on my own if there’s a soulmate for everyone…” - ”Soulmate” by Natasha Bedingfield.
It’s a great concept, isn’t it? One person you are destined to be with. You can stop looking now because you are meant to be with your soulmate. Soulmates are fictional characters that come straight out of a Disney movie.
The thought that you are meant to be with one person out every living person is ludicrous. What if you never meet your soulmate? Maybe they live in California and you live in Maine. But you would never know right? There isn’t a map with a pushpin showing you where your soulmate is. You can’t go on a search for your soulmate. There won’t be a flashing light over his head reading “Jane Doe’s Soulmate.” Soulmates are just not logical.
Another problem with soulmates is the fact that it closes out our other options. We get so set on this picture perfect man we are destined to be with. It creates standards that no one can meet. Again, this isn’t Cinderella and our knight in shining armor on a white horse isn’t coming to save us. It also becomes an excuse for failed relationships. “Oh he just wasn’t my soulmate.” “We weren’t meant to be together.” Which, yes, that can be true but not so literally and that probably isn’t the reason the relationship ended. I’m sure you didn’t just walk up to him one day and say, “Sorry, you aren’t my soulmate. Goodbye.” Having a soulmate is a plan with too many flaws.
I do believe however, that someone can feel like they are your soulmate. I believe that some people just feel like they are meant to be with the person they are with. Two people can have a connection that is so deep it feels like it was destined to be but I don’t believe it actually was.
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saneandsingle June 22nd, 2009, 11:13 am
I agree with you totally! I think we just have to find someone with whom we are compatible or someone whose flaws don’t bother us as much as the last guy’s did!
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searchingwithin June 22nd, 2009, 11:27 am
Personally I believe that each person that enters, and leaves our lives were meant to, and we drew into our lives, to mirror, and teach us something about ourselves. The concept of the soulmate is that you will each draw the other into your lives, and not that there is only one, we can have many.
I also believe that although character traits may bring two people together, it is in loving each other at the soul level, is what makes you two become soul mates. Character traits, values, goals, and positions in life change, as we all evolve and grow, but the soul never changes.
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Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts June 23rd, 2009, 11:27 am
I do believe in soulmates. I know couple that have such a closeness, such a bond that it is incomprehensible.
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Honey July 6th, 2009, 2:30 pm
I would imagine that one of the criterion of a soulmate is that you had many of the same life experiences, values, and beliefs. So it is very unlikely that your soulmate would be separated from you by a great distance or by culture or time…it is more likely someone not as far from you as you would imagine, because you would have the most in common.
That said, I moved over 2000 miles away before I found mine!
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