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4 Ways To Be Irresistible To A Man
As women, we should be the first to admit that we don’t know how men think. I mean seriously. How many times have you had a conversation with your girlfriends that included someone saying, “I just don’t understand men!” More than you can count I’m willing to bet. Fortunately, Christian Carter is a man whose Catch Him & Keep Him program can help you do just that.
Now, I’ll be honest enough to admit that I don’t always agree with Christian. Usually, though, he has some pretty great insights. His recent newsletter article on ways to be irresistible to men, for example, had me nodding my head in agreement all over the place. See if you don’t too…
Tip #1: Show Him You’re The Opposite Of Needy
As Christian points out you don’t always have to be needy to be seen as needy by a man. Simple questions like, “Why didn’t you call yesterday?” or “Will I see you this weekend?” can have him running for the hills. What will keep his interest is him seeing that you are celebrating and appreciating the time you do spend together rather than worrying about the time you don’t. The reason is really very simple. When you ask those kinds of questions, he feels like you are scared or nervous about that time you’re not spending together.
Remember, men don’t necessarily value things about a woman based on time. This is why focusing on the time you’re not together is pretty much shooting yourself in the foot. So rather than doing that, focus on creating situations, experiences and memories that are fun and exciting and will keep him wanting to come back. Christian says, “When you do this, you won’t have to worry or ask for more… because he’ll constantly be coming towards you and looking for more.” And that’s what you want, right?
Tip #2: Be Different Than Other Women
Very simply put, don’t bore the man with all of the mundane details of your life or his for that matter. If you don’t know him very well, he damn sure doesn’t want to hear about your problems and he doesn’t care how tired you are right now or what you had for lunch right out of the gate. And every woman he meets asks him what he does for a living. Stand out from the pack. Don’t be like the other 98% of the women he’s been out with.
Instead, show him that your love for life, be unique and energetic, and let him see all of the wonderful, interesting things you already have going on in your life. This will make you different. A man wants a woman who has a full life that he can be a part of, not a woman who’s looking for a man to be her life.
Tip #3: Don’t Be Predictable
If you keep a man guessing, he’s much more likely to think about you constantly and wonder about you. Creating a level of unpredictability keeps him constantly, pleasantly surprised by you. Doing so works like magic in building his attraction to you.
An easy way to do this is to use humor and teasing instead of being so serious all the time. Christian recommends an easy and fun way to do this. Say and do exactly the opposite of what you’re thinking, but smile when you do it. For example, tell him you can’t stand him smiling all the while or that you don’t particularly like his shirt, but wink when you say it. Men love this kind of playful flirting because, rather than complimenting him all the time, you are creating playful tension. And that creates an energy he’ll want to be a part of.
Don’t be predictible and tell him you really like him and are looking forward to a relationship with him. Try this instead. ”You know, I’m not so sure about you. (wink) I’ll guess I’ll have to wait and see if you’re worthy of what I can share. (smile)” This will drive him crazy and create an attraction beyond the physical attraction.
Teasing works so well for women who use it because it speaks to men. It is the form of communication and bonding that he creates with his male friends. Think about the crazy nicknames they have for each other or how they love to make fun of each other.
Besides, if things get predictible and serious and boring too soon, he’ll quickly lose interest. He wants that exciting, wonderful, fun-loving, upbeat woman you are.
Tip #4: When In Doubt, Seek Answers
Many women pretend they know what men want and respond to when, in reality, they are pushing them away without even realizing it. See, there’s a common misconception out there that we are supposed to understand and know what the opposite sex wants. The truth is we don’t, so we keep doing the same things that drive men away. Be open enough to seek answers and try the tips above.
If you are ready to make a change, check out Christian Carter’s Catch Him & Keep Him and make a change in your life today. Learn about men from a man who knows them.
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Hot Alpha Female May 28th, 2009, 12:53 am
I like this post.
I think the most important thing to remember is to “Be” that irresistible woman. Its not about pretending to act a certain way that you don’t usually. Its not about saying your busy when you are actually not.
That is all about playing games. I’ve been there and done that, and that is not the answer.
I think the real answer, is to enjoy your life, have it filled with all sorts of things that bring you joy.
Then you won’t have to pretend not to be needy. You simply won’t be.
You won’t have to remember to “Not” ask him where this relationship is going … you simply “are” happy with the way in which things are progressing.
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