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Love: Destiny or Proximity?
Think about the coffee shop in town that you frequent. Do you go there everyday and buy an overpriced coffee because it is absolutely the best cup of joe in the world or because it is close? If you moved to a different town that had a different coffee shop, would you adjust or stop drinking coffee? My guess is that your need for a caffeine fix would win out.
So then why do we choose the partners we choose? Was it written in the stars? Or was it because of proximity?
I met the BF at work. I had come home for Spring Break during my first go around with college and picked up a few shifts. He drove me absolutely crazy when I first met him but eventually he started to grow on me and now I don’t want to experience life without him (I got a taste of it once and it sucked horribly).
But what would have happened had I decide not to work during that Spring Break or if I would have been like every other crazy college student and actually gone on vacation? Would I be completely miserable and all alone because, according to destiny, I was supposed to meet my soulmate during that fateful Spring Break?
Okay, so maybe I wouldn’t be dating anyone seriously but it doesn’t necessarily mean that I never would. There are over 6 billion people in the world and there is supposed to be only one that I could be happy with? Bullshit.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I love the BF with everything I have and everything I am, and I am sooo glad that I *did* work that Spring Break but I’d like to think that if I hadn’t that I wouldn’t be doomed to a life of loneliness. And, in the event that we were to someday break up, I should hope that he wasn’t the only one out of 6 billion meant for me. What a shitty world that would me.
So do we really happen upon the person we are “meant” to be with thanks to destiny? Or do we just tell ourselves that to help justify what the princess fairytales tell us?
Thoughts?
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Thomas April 14th, 2009, 12:01 pm
Well, I’ll say that I have been seeing someone for a little bit now and we first met in another state. It just so happens that we actually live in the same state. Proxy? Destiny? Hmm…
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Honey April 14th, 2009, 2:16 pm
The BF and I went on three dates before living in different cities for 3 months…then, after a year of living in the same city, we lived in different cities AGAIN for 9 more months. So I do think it’s possible for compatibility to transcend convenience.
That being said, while I would be pickier about who I dated in the first place in the event that the BF and I split up…I think I could actually be happy with lots of people. Having learned about long-term relationship dynamics and compromise, I think I’ve really learned a lot of skills that would make a next relationship much easier.
But I hope I never have to find out!
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