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Sex and God-Is Sex Before Marriage Really Wrong?
God is good and sex is bad-unless you are married. As Christians, this notion gets pounded into our head throughout our upbringing in the church. We are to wait until we are married so that we are pure for the person we have chosen as our life partner. After we get married and shag for the first time, we are to stay with that one person for our whole lives- spiritually, sexually, mentally and legally.
Even though I was baptized Lutheran and confirmed Lutheran, I don’t consider myself religious, or even Christian, and haven’t for a long time. I don’t believe that there is a supreme being watching our every move and tallying our sins. Therefore, if there isn’t a higher power to answer to, that leaves it up to our personal morals and code of ethics to determine what should be considered a sin. In my opinion, having sex (married or not and with one person or not) isn’t a sin and, in fact, it is healthy, natural, and a helluva lot of fun.
But for those that are religious, where is the cut off between having fun and committing a sin? Do you give your word to stop at third? Or is everything beyond kissing stripping you of purity?
Sex in Christ
While perusing the Internet at work, (shhh don’t tell my boss) I came across the most ridiculous site I have seen in a long damn time. Sex in Christ discusses all matters leading up to and including sex. From what I gather, these Christian radicals think anything goes before marriage except for vaginal penetration. Right, cause that makes sense.
Let’s take anal sex for example. According to Sex in Christ, having anal sex is a very appropriate way to achieve physical pleasure without having Webster’s definition of sex: vaginal intercourse. Anal sex allows you to satisfy your body without risking pregnancy and, most importantly, allows you to remain pure until you are married.
Now, my question is, exactly what part of anal sex is pure? There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, but most would consider it a bit more raunchy than vaginal intercourse. Apparently, the Bible says anal sex is wrong if it is a homosexual act but promotes it as a heterosexual act. In that case, I think I got ripped off and was given the wrong version of the Bible.
“God put our mouths on our head for a reason!” screamed Darald on Forgetting Sarah MarshallI. But according to Sex in Christ, oral sex is okay before marriage- assuming the semen is swallowed. It is apparently a sin to spill the seed. Oh and just in case you were wondering, spilling the seed is a no-no whether you are married or not. That means pulling out, or coitus interruptus (I am convinced someone made up the Latin terminology and it made me laugh my ass off), is cause to have to confess your sins to the big man.
To Sin or Not to Sin
I personally see nothing wrong with having sex before marriage or having sex with more than one partner in your lifetime or even at a time. I can’t say, however, that I agree with the author of Sex in Christ. If you are going to wait until marriage, then wait until marriage. I do not understand how having anal sex can allow one to still be considered pure. Sex is sex, whether it is anal, vaginal or oral and whether you spit or swallow.
If you believe in a higher power that says that you have to wait until marriage to have sex, then good for you but, as the saying goes, you can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Thoughts?
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Honey March 11th, 2009, 11:58 am
Well, the BF and I are atheist, so it’s pretty much a moot point for us!
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Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts March 12th, 2009, 2:22 pm
“I do not understand how having anal sex can allow one to still be considered pure. Sex is sex, whether it is anal, vaginal or oral and whether you spit or swallow.”
That’s exactly what I was about to write.
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SINgleGIRL March 12th, 2009, 9:54 pm
LOL. I once dated a guy who grew up in a very conservative, rural part of the country. He didn’t have “real” sex until he went away to college but had had lots of anal and oral sex during high school people the girls he grew up with wanted to keep themselves pure for their husbands. Ha. People are so weird.
Craze March 13th, 2009, 4:41 pm
As usual, I’m with you on this one. Religion and sex prior to marriage are personal issue and each person needs to figure out what works best for them.