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3 Truths About Men You Won’t Believe
Think men like the thrill of the chase? Or that they can’t show emotion? Or maybe that men don’t want commitment or to be in a relationship? If so, you are certainly not alone but, according to Christan Carter, author of Catch Him and Keep Him, you are wrong. In fact, in Catch Him and Keep Him, Carter says that there indeed 10 truths about men that women don’t know and that it keeps us from finding the relationships they want and deserve.
TRUTH #1: Men Don’t Need To Chase
It’s been said many times by many people that men need to be made to chase a woman in order to want her and commit wholeheartedly.
Not true. In fact, according to Carter, it’s plain wrong. He says that men are humans first which means that they want to feel a deep, emotional level of attraction. Thus, if they find a woman stimulating and feel an emotional attraction to her, there is no need for a chase.
Now, this is different than a physical attraction obviously. If there’s only a physical attraction, you’ll have a hard time holding his attention and getting him to commit. So, it’s about emotional, not physical, attraction.
TRUTH #2: Men Feel Emotions Just Like Women
According to Carter, men are pretty sensitive. It’s just how they handle what they feel that makes them hard to connect with about it, and hard to understand-unless you know what’s going on with how men handle these things in the first place.
And, the truth is, that while men seem more in control, they are actually less in control. Because of this, they withdraw leading women to believe they aren’t feeling emotion at all.
Further, when a man says, “Why are you being so dramatic?” it’s because things are getting too intense and he doesn’t know how to handle it.
TRUTH #3: Men Want Relationships
Men want to be in a relationship, and they have a strong desire to feel recognized as a great partner by their women.
Have you ever accused a man of being “not ready” for a relationship? Here’s a mind-blowing statistic: WOMEN (not men) break off relationships or file for divorce 70% of the time.
The trick, Carter says, is that men want to be in a relationship if it doesn’t feel like it’s too hard. If he feels like he can’t please you or can’t do anything right, he’s not going to want to be in a relationship with you.
On the other hand, if you show a man that you trust him, he will want to be in a relationship with you.
Thoughts?
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Meghan February 12th, 2009, 6:28 am
I was just kind of hoping I could buy that little bottle of scented pheremones advertised in the back of my Us Weekly to snare a fella! What? I have to actually think about what they WANT? BO-Ring!
; )
Although there are certain levels where I would have to agree that we are wired differently. we are all human first. Healthy human interaction between two adults does have some fundamentals.
It’s once we get below the surface we have to do the tweaking. I get told I argue and express more male than female tendencies quite a bit…I don’t always agree, but it’s whats below my surface that makes me adapt my own needs and wants.
Man…that was an awful lot of typing for only one sip of coffee!
searchingwithin February 12th, 2009, 12:05 pm
I really believe he has to do some chasing to feel the attraction and desire, otherwise he gets bored, and finds another toy to play with.
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Infinity February 16th, 2009, 9:24 am
Late to this post, but these three do hold true. We confuse an interference in a connection between men & women with a “problem” someone may have – in this situation, guys not being emotional or not trying enough or “not being ready.”
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