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Things Men Should Avoid When Dating Online
I was checking out the Plenty of Fish forums recently and found this post…
If we (men) can avoid just these 3 things while trying to date online, will the men have a better chance to talk with/meet women? The fact is, women do not see themselves as committing to anything when they write us online. For a guy, when he says ‘I’m available’, that’s what he means. But for a woman, being available doesn’t mean she stop being picky. Tons of posts each day by men asking why they are getting no responses and I can’t seem to figure out a helluva lot. But tell me, if we were to avoid these three things, would there be happier posts in here (the POF forums):
1. Aggressiveness (meaning: push for a meeting if she is saying no or accusing her of being afraid to meet)
2. Looking for an ideal (meaning: keeping an ideal woman in our mind who we probably can not find and/or one who probably does not exist)
3. Lying and exaggerating (meaning: lie about how much we earn, how many times we have been married, saying we are single when we are not, stating we are fit when we are over-weight, etc)
Can we expect better results online if these 3 things could be avoided while searching for a partner?
Now, I’m not online dating’s biggest fan. In fact, other than some entertainment value, I think it pretty much sucks especially in MapDot. I think, though, that this guy might just be on to something, but not necessarily just for men. All of us could benefit from avoiding numbers two and three.
Looking for an ideal brings with it expectations that no one can live up too. As was mentioned in the 2009 Dating Resolutions, we need to raise our standards but lower our expectations.
All in all I think it’s a good list. Thoughts?
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auntiegwen February 3rd, 2009, 10:57 am
We have plenty of fish too, my colleague (male) is not having very much luck with it, he says there are masses of profiles but not very many people actually being proactive. Is it because it’s free people don’t try that hard, just stick their details up and forget it ?
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Seductress February 3rd, 2009, 12:55 pm
Absolutely! Avoiding those three things in online dating AND in life will result in better results with dating and otherwise.
As a general rule, treat everyone (and oneself) with integrity and respect and approach life the same way, you’ll attract the same back to you and be happier.
Seductress
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