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Breakup Meltdown Contest
If you haven’t checked out Paige Parker’s Dating Without Drama yet, you really should. Besides offering a newsletter full of tips to understanding men, she also has a great ebook full of tips to do the same. In last week’s newsletter, Paige announced she was running a contest featuring Breakup Meltdown stories. Kira and I thought it might be fun to do the same.
The prize will be the great new breakup activity book by Josh Lewis Dumped!: Fun & Games Activity Book Featuring Word Scrambles, Connect-the-Dots, and in-depth Psychiatric Analysis for the Unexpectedly Single
About Dumped:
For anyone who has been on the receiving end of the classic: “I think we should just be friends,” or the all-time favorite, “it’s not you, it’s me,” DUMPED! will exorcise your breakup demons.
Direct your rejection-fueled wrath towards DUMPED’s fictional dumpees, Sam and Samantha, whom you can help through the din of post-breakup mazes, mad-libs, fill in the blanks, and games. Assist one or condemn the other in activities like: “Web Of Lies” or “Dumped Through The Ages.” Test your break-up song knowhow in the musical trivia game, “Heart Of Glass.” Play therapist in “Are You High?,” “Reeling and Dealing,” and “Selective Memory.” Get in touch with your inner-child with “The Color Of Sanity,” where you can color code Sam’s medication. Thankfully, help is here with this sarcastic, smart, bitter, not-your-kiddy-activity book.
Just leave your breakup meltdown story in the comments or write your own post and leave the link in the comments to be entered to win. In the meantime, enjoy our personal breakup meltdown stories. The deadline for entries is Friday, January 30, 2009.
lisaq’s Breakup Meltdown:
My brother had been killed in a car accident. My ex b/f was the first person I called. He rushed to my house and barely left my side for the next 5 days. After the funeral, he took me home and tucked me in for a nap. When I woke up a few hours later, he was mowing my lawn. Afterwards, he took me to play Putt-Putt golf and to dinner to try to provide some distraction. After dinner, he pulled up in my driveway, said “See ya.” and left.
For the next 5 days, I heard absolutely nothing from him. I must have called and texted 10 times a day and couldn’t get him to pick up the phone or respond to a text. Finally, on the 5th day, he called me back. He explained that he had been out of town. When I asked where, he said that he had been visiting a “friend.” I told him that I really needed to see him and he agreed to come by when he got back to town. When he finally showed up, he admitted that the “friend” he had been with out of town was a another woman. He told me that unless I wanted to share him, he was leaving me for her. From the sounds of things he had dropped me off the day of the funeral and gone straight to her.
In my already fragile emotional state, it was more than I could handle. I got up and went to work the next morning, but ended up leaving after a few hours because I couldn’t concetrate or stop the tears.
When I got home, I logged on to MySpace to find out that I had already been demoted from his #1 friend to #8. I also learned that he had changed his status to “in a relationship” something he would never do for me because he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship…or so he said. I immediately lost it. I wrote a horribly scathing blog entry about betrayal. I was crying so hard I could barely breathe. Finally, I called my parents who became so concerned that they called the local mental health center and the emergency room to try to figure out what to do with me. I tried to sleep but couldn’t. It was horrible.
For days, no weeks, I fantasized that he would realize the mistake he made and call to apologize and want me back. I never called him but I did visit his MySpace page about a million times a day looking for hidden meanings in comments back & forth between him and the woman who had taken my place. At one point I even emailed her. And I emailed him as well. I even took to driving by his house a few times a week.
That soon lost appeal but that damn MySpace page was like crack! And not just his. Hers as well. I did that for months. When they broke up, I was so excited knowing he’d call. But he didn’t. He took her back instead.
Though the frequency of visits lessened over time, it was literally months before I could resist the urge to visit their pages on at least a daily basis. In fact, it wasn’t until he deleted his that I had to go cold turkey and give up my addiction. Obsess much?
kira’s Breakup Meltdown:
My boyfriend and I both worked at the same restaurant. I was working in the office for a few weeks organizing files and such and he had just moved from serving to working in the kitchen. Although we were both exhausted from having to be at work way earlier then we were used to, it seemed to be taking a bigger toll on him than it did on me.
He began to constantly oversleep in the morning and go straight to bed when he got home. I rarely saw him. The last week we were together, he stood me up three times- the last of which left me sitting in a restaurant by myself while I called him at least a dozen times to see where he was. One night I we were talking on the phone and he straight up fell asleep while talking to me.
It was a Monday when I got to work and was told by the manager that Andy had walked out on his shift that morning. I tried to call him and got no response. A bit later I sent him a text message asking him what the hell was going on. He texted me back saying he didn’t have time for me anymore and didn’t want to see me anymore. I was angry and just chose to distract myself by working harder. I was pissed but ok with it all- or so I thought.
I started spring semester classes the next day and was so sick to my stomach from the events of the day before that I was barely able to sit up straight. I cried uncontrollably and couldn’t eat anything. I hated that things had played out they did and wasn’t satisfied with the reasons he gave me for wanting to end it. I emailed him and let him know how I was feeling. I told him that I was hurt and mostly because I felt like his logic for wanting to split was just a cop out and there was something more going on. He actually replied and told me that he was just too busy to deal with it all.
I continued to wallow in self pity for days. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep. All I could do was cry and wonder what I did to make someone just quit talking to me rather than have the balls to just be straight with me. I tried to stay distracted with school and work but it was obvious to everyone around me that I was a wreck. I had lost 16 pounds in less than 10 days and barely even wanted to move.
I finally snapped out of my rutt when my family came to town one Saturday. My grandparents, mom, and I all went out for chinese. My fortune cookie held a fortune that said, “Keep your chin up, great things are ahead.” My family coming combined with the seemingly simplistic fortune I got that day made me realize that I was being ridiculous and that Andy wasn’t worth my tears.
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auntiegwen January 25th, 2009, 9:26 am
I am so pleased I don’t have myspace or facebook, I would be in flitters !!! I do think however that my ex continues to read my blog. I’m so glad you survived xxx
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Lance January 25th, 2009, 10:20 pm
Kira, what happened with that dude? Did you get more info or ever find closure?
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lisaq January 26th, 2009, 6:30 am
Haha Gwen. Thanks. Unfortunately I am a huge myspace/facebook addict.
Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts January 26th, 2009, 2:22 pm
Oh my. I’ve had a couple really sad break ups that really threw me for a loop. Too much to write now. Maybe I’ll do a blog on it one day soon.
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kira January 26th, 2009, 3:13 pm
I haven’t heard from the guy since he emailed me. I know he is still in town but that is about it. I eventually just had to come to the realization that he is just a flake and I deserved someone who would at least be straight with me. I started dating someone else so that served as a good distraction from it all. But I’ll be damned if the next guy didn’t do the same damn thing! I’m not sure if it is what I attract or what I am attracted to!
lisaq January 27th, 2009, 6:29 am
Be sure to come back and leave your link when you write your post Tee.
Probably a combination of both Kira. We send out those signals sometimes without realizing it. As Hot Alpha Female reminded me recently though, “everything is our responsibility but nothing is our fault. With this, it means that you can take action on what needs to change without putting the blame and guilt on yourself.”
Honey February 9th, 2009, 7:44 pm
Myspace IS like crack…I was quite addicted to the BF’s ex’s page for a long time, and he doesn’t even talk to her! Once I had a regular 8-5 job where such surfing is a no-no, it faded away
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