Comments on: Is This The Way Sex Is Supposed to Be?

By: Honey

Honey — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 01:40:04 +0000

I had a lot of fun with NSA sex when I was younger, but I think that's because, for a variety of reasons, I wasn't with a person or in a place where I was capable of more. I don't think I could go back to that if I were single again...a good relationship, even if it doesn't stay good forever, changes your views forever! Honey´s last blog post..Our Financial Philosophy: Or, Grocery Store, Part Deux

By: searchingwithin

searchingwithin — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:27:03 +0000

Excellent article, and I love the comment that Seductress left. Her statement, "mourning little pieces of themselves that they feel they lost each time they laid down with someone they ultimately weren’t connected to, and didn’t have their best interests at heart", says it all for me. Even though most everyone has at one time or another engaged in meaningless sex, I find it hard to believe that someone, even if buried deep inside, we are all left with a bigger hole than we were seeking to fill, when everything has been said and done. I am much happier saving the gift of my body for the man who is going to grab a hold of my hand and heart, and never let go. ~Best Wishes~ searchingwithin´s last blog post..Difficulty in "Complimenting" a Woman

By: lisaq

lisaq — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 12:34:18 +0000

I actually read that article yesterday Lance. It’s definitely an interesting one.

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 04:18:12 +0000

Obviously, I love safe casual sex, but I’m a dude and that’s in my DNA. Intimacy and emotional connection is great and the sex there can be great too.

I think your audience would really dig this NY Times article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?_r=1&em

Lance´s last blog post..Filthy Butt Sex On New Years Eve

By: lisaq

lisaq — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 12:01:27 +0000

You make some very valid points Seductress. Every action has a reaction of some kind.

Yep Gwen. Those kinds of relationships can wreck havoc on the ego. There’s no doubt about it.

Me neither Tee.

Haha saneandsingle. Maybe he’s in hiding somewhere with mine!

By: saneandsingle

saneandsingle — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 01:04:18 +0000

Where the hell is my real thing??? saneandsingle´s last blog post..Tomorrow

By: Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts

Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:18:16 +0000

Casual sex does leave you feeling very empty. Not my cup of tea.

By: auntiegwen

auntiegwen — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 14:57:58 +0000

I've never had a FWB relationship and I've never has a 1 night stand. I'm far too much of a love junkie to cope with that, I need to be adored, my ego is way too fragile for that. The most perfect love making I ever had was with the person I waited the longest to sleep with, I felt we had a real connection and maybe because the anticipation made the feeling more intense. auntiegwen´s last blog post..When I grow up I want to be...

By: Seductress

Seductress — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 14:25:46 +0000

I'm not a fan of casual sex either. Not because it's immoral, or wrong though many arguments can be and are made for those positions; but because I hear time and again how empty and lonely it makes people feel. Many people who'think' they can handle it and do handle it for awhile find themselves regretting it years later when they find themselves in a different emotional place or finally in a committed loving relationship where they experience sex the way it's suppose to be felt and shared. That regret can be felt as mourning little peices of themselves that they feel they lost each time they laid down with someone they ultimately weren't connected to, and didn't have their best interests at heart. Not to mention the ramifications of failed birth control exposing them to disease or an unwanted pregnancy. Those things affect not only the people involved but society at large. Sometimes permanent consequences of a meaningless event. You're right, to each his own and grown concenting adults can do what they wish with their bodies. But sex is never 'just sex'; we don't 'do it' in a vacuum. There are always emotional, physical and societal consequences. Seductress´s last blog post..What Does This Gift Say About His Feelings For Me?