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Life is Short. Have an Affair.
The title to this post also doubles as the motto for a a website that deals in promoting affairs. The Ashley Madison Agency is a site for married couples who are looking for extramarital activities. The site maintains that at some point in all married relationships, one or both partners come across someone they see as a “better” partner, whether it be physically or emotionally. Couples stay together because it is what is expected and accepted not necessarily what is natural. The site throws a bunch of statistics in your face to make it sound like cheating is natural and inevitable.
Advocates of the site make it sound as though married couples can’t be happy being monogamous. The creator of the site said that she has “created a place where women and men can share stories of how they found happiness.” She even guarantees that you will have an affair “or your money back.”
The site is even stepping up it’s advertising and will have a spot in the upcoming Super Bowl. According the the President of Ashley Madison, Noel Biderman, ”partnering with the Super Bowl is the perfect fit because over 50% of all men in the US typically watch the Super Bowl just like over 50% of all men will have an Affair at some point in their lives.”
I hate that we seemingly live in a society that is becoming more and more accepting of cheating. I hate the idea that it seems to be more and more impossible to find someone to share the rest of your life with and be happy with, even if every moment isn’t completely blissful.
I have been on both ends of the cheating spectrum and, I have to say, it sucks no matter how you cut it. I did it as a cop out. I wasn’t happy and wanted out of the relationship and didn’t have the balls to just end it. So I cheated and let myself get caught. It wasn’t right no matter how you look at it but what’s done is done and at least I learned to never go down that path again. When we aren’t happy, why can’t we just say so instead of having to hurt everyone involved?
Thoughts?
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Meghan January 20th, 2009, 6:26 am
Not a fan of Ashley Madison…I find the site all kinds of ridiculous. Finding happiness will never involve developing a life of secrecy for me.
searchingwithin January 20th, 2009, 10:51 am
How very sad, and unfortunately, more than likely very profitable. I keep sitting here in search for something intelligent to say about this issue, but I just find myself speechless at this moment. Just about the time you think you can’t possibly come across anything that will surprise you, and leave you with your head shaking, you come across something that will.
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auntiegwen January 20th, 2009, 12:52 pm
Sadly we have them here in the UK, I got a pop up and thought it was a regular dating site. This one has photos and everything open to the viewing/clicking public !! Aren’t they worried they will be seen ?
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Brian January 20th, 2009, 5:34 pm
Wow, if this doesn’t prove that the values of honesty, trust, and commitment are fading I don’t know what does. No wonder it is so hard to find a good person to date with self-centered ideals like this being promoted as a good thing. I totally agree with Kira. It is sad that this is the direction modern society is heading. It is a very bad mentality of selfishness for so many reasons beyond just romantic relationships. I can only hope that I meet a woman of character, who thinks such a point of view is as ridiculous as I do, before the decency in which people treat each other and the conscious that makes us more than wild animals is lost. Does anyone think this is just a greedy person looking to make money through the infidelity in our society, or do you think she really believes the crap she is saying? Either way it is wrong, but I find it hard to accept that people can truly be so heartless.
Infinity January 21st, 2009, 10:58 am
Because of what you said earlier. People are just too damn scared to make the move. I don’t know what it is about it.
I met someone recently who knows that she is no longer in love with her boyfriend and can be with someone much better but she is too scared to take the risk and leave. I understand there is a major investment there when it comes to time and stuff and leaving that all behind can seem a little daunting but still. She said she would want him to cheat on her so that she can have an excuse to leave him. If that doesn’t work, she’s leaving the country in a few months and so she’ll do it then. Really?
Why not now? She’s an extreme example and there are more personal reasons why she can’t do it NOW, but in a normal situation, why put it off? It’s just going to end in disaster and you’ll eventually be in a worse situation doing something you didn’t want to do.
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Honey February 9th, 2009, 7:33 pm
I have been on both ends of the cheating spectrum as well (the BF has only been the cheater, I think) and it was just so awful I can’t imagine setting out to do it. When I did it, it was like Lisaq says, I was putting myself in a position where I’d be forced to take the action I already knew I wanted to take. But that’s kind of a childish way to go about it – better to be honest with everyone. And cheating on someone in a deliberate, long-term way like AM? It sickens me to even think about. We have the commercials here in Phoenix, too, and it makes me so sad.
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