Comments on: Break Ups Ring In the New Year

By: Weekly Round Up: Relationships over the Web - The Ultimate Hot Stuff Blog

Weekly Round Up: Relationships over the Web - The Ultimate Hot Stuff Blog — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 18:38:08 +0000

[...] Year’s Resolution to break up with your husband, boyfriend or wife, girlfriend?? According to 20-forty.com says that you are twice as likely to break up in the months of January and February than any other [...]

By: lisaq

lisaq — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 11:18:36 +0000

Well said Infinity. You made a lot of really good points.

By: Infinity

Infinity — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 16:24:24 +0000

Well, for me, most of my relationships lasted through the new year, but what would happen is that the more we thought about making changes, the more our relationship declined. Most of my relationships wouldn't last through March, with lots of arguing til that time. It's something that does strike a nerve and if you don't try to handle it whether by talking or making the actual decision, it's going to fester and it'll blow up when you least expect it. But I do agree with Honey, when she talked about life changes. It's almost been a year since I left college and when my ex-girlfriend and I broke up, a lot of it just had to do with me leaving school and her not wanting to really say goodbye. It happens...although, I do believe that age/stage of life does have something to do with you willingness to take chances and making changes. Younger people feel like they have less to lose by making changes so early in their lives. Infinity´s last blog post..Learning About the Alpha Woman

By: lisaq

lisaq — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 11:50:33 +0000

That makes just as much, if not more, sense Honey.

By: Honey

Honey — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 17:50:04 +0000

My breakups have never correlated with the New Year but with major life changes...1) my mom dying, 2) my finishing therapy, 3) my graduation from college, 4) my moving across the country. So that's my vote! Honey´s last blog post..Snowboarding, Sickness, and a Breakdown at the Grocery Store

By: lisaq

lisaq — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 15:42:10 +0000

Makes perfect sense SINgleGIRL. And, I think, that’s the way a lot of people are approaching it hence the large number of breakups this time of year.

By: SINgleGIRL

SINgleGIRL — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 21:24:58 +0000

For 3 yrs in a row now I have ended relationships within 2 wks of New Years Eve (one yr it was on NYE). For me it's about not wanting to bring bad baggage into the New Year. It might be an arbitrary date, in one sense. But I figure it's an opportunity to look myself, my relationship and the man I'm seeing square in the eye and say, "hey, this isn't working for me and I deserve better". Sometimes I think if the timing were different one of those relationships might have worked out, but all in all I don't have any regrets. SINgleGIRL´s last blog post..Red Flags (not in a good way)

By: lisaq

lisaq — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 15:02:08 +0000

I think that makes a lot of sense Gwen. Lord knows the holidays are stressful enough without all of the other added stuff…

By: auntiegwen

auntiegwen — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 11:44:09 +0000

I know that last New Year I knew I didn't want to go on and so walked away. I'm sure the stress of forced jollity and trying to join 2 sets of children and 2 sets of holiday tradition with 2 new partners trying to be mummy and daddy to all had a significant impact on it. Maybe if we had been together longer we would have been more established as a group and would have made it through ? I still think he was the wrong man for me but the stress of the season brought that up earlier for me. auntiegwen´s last blog post..Meet The Weans... part deux