He is very care free and easy going and he can be because he does live at home. His responsibilities are go to work and teaching on the side. The rest of his time involves training for Iron Man. There doesn’t seem to be a thought of wanting to earn more income. He enjoys his freedom and personal time. I somewhat envy his attitude but because of where I am at I can’t just be so relaxed. I too have an option of taking a job that I would perfer to do but it pays far less. Sure it would give me more time to do what I want but I would not be able to pay for bills that are a reality. His mind set seems to be that things will be fine and that I think too much.

Perhaps I do and I should just sit back and enjoy because when we are together it is great. But I still think being with the older guy would give me both. There is just not that complete all out crazy exciting feeling that I have when I’m with the younger guy.

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I would love to hear if anyone else has come up against the same situation, I can’t be the first!!

Thanks for your thoughts on my situation. It is funny that you are both concerned about the fact that he still lives at home. First let me say that he really is not a “momma boy” which I am quite sure of. The major reason for him living at home right now is because of financial reasons. He has been to University and has a degree in business. From there he lived overseas for 4 years (on his own) in Hungary and Turkey. He did quite a bit of traveling around when he was there. His parents are originally from Guyana (yes he is dark and I am white) which to me is not an issue whats so ever. It also is not an issue with my kids, friends or anyone. He is also at home to help out his mom as much as possible as his dad has Parkinsons. When he returned from overseas he went back to school and is now a Fire Fighter and EMT. Although it is a noble job..to start out they don’t earn what they deserve. He also teaches EMT and coaches swimming which he has done for years. (Hence the attraction to Triathlons) His strength is swimming mine is running.

We have talked about kids and he doesn’t want kids of his own. He is fine with making mine a part of his family and also enjoys his nieces and nephews. I would be ok with either..but would probably perfer to not have any.

As you have both said…the age thing is not really an issue with me so much as where we are in our lives. Most people would guess that I am about 35 but I never hide my age…I’m proud of it.

He has also purchased a house in the past with a friend and then flipped it. He is thinking of doing something like this again. We have talked about what it would be like to live with one another, which we are not ready for yet but he too says he wants to bring something to the table.

Pitter…Patter is an understatement. Have you seen that clip on Bambi when they talk about being “Twitterpatted” you can look it up on You Tube and it is so cute. Even we have talked about it and we are both very much “Twitterpatted”

As for the older guy…yes he is the stable, more realiable one. (well I don’t know if realiable is the right word) but you know what I mean. He has great qualities and there is a part of me that loves him but I know that it is not the same. I am not “Twitterpatted” with him!!

So I guess in my heart I know what I want to do. When I had mentioned about life being easier with the older man that is true. But I know it would not be as much fun. The great thing is that I don’t have to choose because of money…I make that on my own which is a good feeling being single and a mother of two. I have been doing it on my own for the past 6 years.

Anyway…thanks for your thoughts I would love to hear from anyone else.
Barb