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Pornography and Relationships
I was watching “Friends” last night, as I do frequently, and the discussion at the time I tuned in was about porn. Rachel was talking about how her new boyfriend, Joshua, doesn’t like porn, that he thought it was cheap and cheesy. The guys teased her and said that he was basically feeding her a line because most guys liked porn.
People everywhere are watching porn. Men do it, women do it, couples do it together. At the same rate, many people are against porn and find it repulsive and degrading. So what does watching porn do to relationships?
Well that depends. Many experts will say that watching porn does not adversely affect relationships. Porn only becomes a major issue when it begins to replace or take away from sex in the relationship. Often, when someone becomes addicted to porn, it becomes difficult for them to seperate the pornography from reality. They become so fixated on the images of the porn that they can’t relate to a real person in a sexual manner any longer. In this case, the relationship is negatively affected.
I don’t personally see porn as an issue. As long as my partner is still rocking it out in the bedroom, who cares if he gets his on his own time. I don’t watch the stuff myself, never really felt the desire but it doesn’t offend me in the least if other people do. When it comes to watching porn, as with many things, I say to each their own.
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Honey November 21st, 2008, 11:33 am
Well, I agree! I think it’s when people aren’t okay with it that it all starts to be underground and stressful anyway. It’s just a masturbatory aid for most guys, and I certainly masturbate enough that I wouldn’t begrudge him…
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SINgleGIRL November 22nd, 2008, 1:47 pm
I’m with you on this one. I don’t like porn, it kind of makes me squirm. But I don’t care whether the man in my life does. I actually used to do date a guy who collected vintage and rare porn (he was kind of obsessed) and it did not have any negative affects on our sex life. I’d guess that a relationship that was negatively affected by porn probably had other issues to start with.
The flip side of this, however, are single guys who don’t get laid much and become obsessed with porn. I have, sadly, seen a few of them who have had their performance affected by porn. It’s almost as if when they finally get a chance to be with a real woman they get confused and try to replay what they’ve seen on screen – and porn is usually not a good reflection of happy, healthy sex. Big ICK.
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T November 24th, 2008, 11:36 am
Amen! I completely agree with you. I enjoy it myself and probably own more movies than many of the men friends I know!!
The problem is when it does become secretive. My ex and I got engaged on an evening after attending strip clubs. And then 14 years later, he’s hiding the fact that he was watching internet porn though we owned movies that he knew I watched frequently! That’s when it became more of a “cheating” thing.
Oh yeah, and he was actually cheating too.
Why make it a secret? Why not use it to spice things up?! I’m all about it.
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