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Dating: Should You Call Or Text?
“Some people are just not good on the phone.” Amen! As I’ve said before, the phone is not my friend. I am not one of those women whose phone is permanently attached to her ear. In fact, the only time you’ll find me just chatting is when I’m talking to one of my daughters or my BFF who lives 3 hours away. Other than that, no thanks.
While I agree that in the beginning, when asking for a first date for example, it’s better to make a phone call than to text, overall I have nothing whatsoever against text messages. In fact, many times I prefer them.
I will say, however, that the late night “fishing” text is one I don’t like. It’s obvious that one’s all about a booty call and that’s not something I’m all about.
What about you? Texting okay with you or do you think he should pick up the phone?
auntiegwen November 14th, 2008, 6:15 am
I love the texting and am a master of the drunken flirty texting ! if he knows I’m out without him and he doesn’t get his DFT, he wonders if I’m still conscious if he doesn’t get it !
but it’s never a booty call, just a little, hey I wish you were here type stuff 1
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Brad K. November 14th, 2008, 7:24 am
Face to face if you care. Text and call when you have to. Don’t gossip. Be courteous to whomever you call - think of what you are disrupting. Show some respect.
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Honey November 14th, 2008, 4:21 pm
The BF and I use a mix of e-mail, phone, and texting. Generally speaking we both don’t like the phone and so tend to text or e-mail more, especially since he got his Blackberry and I am by a computer all day.
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SINgleGIRL November 14th, 2008, 4:30 pm
I’ve become a big fan of texting. Like you, lisaq, I’m not that into talking on the phone. Texting can be a great quick way to make plans with someone I’m trying to get to know better. I just, in fact, finalized plans for tonight’s date via text and it was so much easier than it would have been by phone.
However, I draw the line at booty texts. That’s not cool.
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Meghan November 15th, 2008, 1:08 am
I absolutely abhor awkward phone silences…call me if we need to make plans, chat about our day or debrief…text me if you’re thinking about me but really have nothing to say.
It’s sweet to quickly text, its irritating as shit to be stuck on the phone.
lisaq November 15th, 2008, 5:25 pm
Haha Gwen. I know you do.
Bradk I’m talking about those times when you aren’t together. When you first meet someone and begin dating you aren’t going to see each other every day. It’s about how to stay in contact when you aren’t together.
Honey. It’s just more convenient sometimes, isn’t it?
I hear you SINgleGIRL. It makes things much, much easier.
Ugh Meghan, me too! I hate that. You’re right…it’s irritating as shit!
Bernadette Grattan November 21st, 2008, 5:21 pm
I agree with the “It is ok to text” commentary. I find it very effective and I use it with the majority of the people that I communicate with. If someone calls me and I don’t have time to call back that day, I will send a quick text. Now, if I am dating a guy and he calls and I text, we do have to compromise on our communication!
Heck, I even got my contractor into texting! All that is next are my parents!
saneandsingle November 22nd, 2008, 9:56 pm
I don’t mind texts, but I also like the occasional phone call. Definitely, in the beginning, the phone call is oh so important. Texting is very effective for those times when you have something quick to say and not much time to say it, or if you are in a situation where you can’t really talk without “ears” all around.
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