Comments on: Madonna’s Marriage Contract-Complete Folly?

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 11:18:20 +0000

LisaQ – I am a romantic, too. I love the idea of love conquering all.

Yet Lance is correct. Mating and marriage are about managing resources, about balancing beliefs and respect and duty and responsibility with joy and security.

Sometimes finding a path through the biggest obstacles lets the affection and respect grow – and become a habit.

But I do agree with you that nagging, posting the contract in the home, and using it like a club are pretty defensive (ie, lack trust) – or manipulative (ie, lack respect).

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By: lisaq

lisaq — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:34:32 +0000

I suppose Lance, but I would think you would be better served doing so ahead of time. And honestly, guidelines are one thing. This just seems nitpicky to me.

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 15:46:30 +0000

I actually think a written set of guidelines would be a great idea. At the very least, the act of writing down expectations and protocol for conflict management would be an act of honesty and openness. Does it mean you have to follow it to the letter? No, but at least you know where the partner is coming from. My guess is Madonna's contract was too one-sided, but a balanced one could work. It's not romantic, but a marriage is as much a business transaction as an emotional/spiritual one. Lance´s last blog post..Barack Obama Tells Us What Romance Is

By: lisaq

lisaq — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 12:17:03 +0000

Haha..I suppose Gwen, I supposwe.

Maybe BradK. Still it obviously too little, too late, wasn’t it?

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 15:02:08 +0000

LisaQ, I don't see that at all. What I see is a formalized therapy prescription. The quoted parts seem to be part anger management, part respect for differing beliefs and values. It all seems to be about addressing problems between them at that time. And it feels a bit too intimate to be laying out in public. It would pertain to just one couple, at one stage in a troubled marriage. Brad K.´s last blog post..Hey, That’s what I say, too!

By: auntiegwen

auntiegwen — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 14:11:25 +0000

I can imagine that if you want to be with Madonna, it'd have to be on her terms ! auntiegwen´s last blog post..Drunkety, drunk, drunk...again, a tale in 2 parts