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Madonna’s Marriage Contract-Complete Folly?
Normally, I could give a crap less about celebs and their nonsense but, when I came across this article about Madonna and Guy Ritchie’s marriage contract, it made me shake my head. You know, much like you do when you see people doing really, really stupid shit. And then I remembered it was Madonna. Still, a marriage contract which states the fricking obvious? I mean is this the ultimate in control or what?
I would imagine he felt “bound up” for heaven’s sake! Did she include times he could eat, sleep, and take a whiz too? Completely ridiculous and oh so diva-like.
I would think that if you felt the need for a contract like this one, it’s probably already time to call it a day. Thoughts?
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by lisaq on Sunday, November 9th, 2008 and is filed under Break Up and Divorce, Divorce Issues, Featured.
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auntiegwen November 9th, 2008, 9:11 am
I can imagine that if you want to be with Madonna, it’d have to be on her terms !
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Brad K. November 9th, 2008, 10:02 am
LisaQ, I don’t see that at all. What I see is a formalized therapy prescription. The quoted parts seem to be part anger management, part respect for differing beliefs and values. It all seems to be about addressing problems between them at that time.
And it feels a bit too intimate to be laying out in public. It would pertain to just one couple, at one stage in a troubled marriage.
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lisaq November 10th, 2008, 7:17 am
Haha..I suppose Gwen, I supposwe.
Maybe BradK. Still it obviously too little, too late, wasn’t it?
Lance November 10th, 2008, 10:46 am
I actually think a written set of guidelines would be a great idea. At the very least, the act of writing down expectations and protocol for conflict management would be an act of honesty and openness. Does it mean you have to follow it to the letter? No, but at least you know where the partner is coming from. My guess is Madonna’s contract was too one-sided, but a balanced one could work.
It’s not romantic, but a marriage is as much a business transaction as an emotional/spiritual one.
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lisaq November 10th, 2008, 8:34 pm
I suppose Lance, but I would think you would be better served doing so ahead of time. And honestly, guidelines are one thing. This just seems nitpicky to me.
Brad K. November 11th, 2008, 6:18 am
LisaQ - I am a romantic, too. I love the idea of love conquering all.
Yet Lance is correct. Mating and marriage are about managing resources, about balancing beliefs and respect and duty and responsibility with joy and security.
Sometimes finding a path through the biggest obstacles lets the affection and respect grow - and become a habit.
But I do agree with you that nagging, posting the contract in the home, and using it like a club are pretty defensive (ie, lack trust) - or manipulative (ie, lack respect).
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