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By: lisaq

lisaq — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:37:57 +0000

I think maybe time could help some Lance. Still, I”m not sure it’s something I’d be okay with depending on a lot of factors…time, intensity of the relationship, etc.

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 15:42:00 +0000

It can be okay, but time is the biggest factor. Basically you need to wait long enough until the other person is "over" the ex, or has moved on to something else. Personally, I would wait until my friend has dated around a bunch or found a new SO. I've had one very good friend date (and eventually marry) my very first girlfriend, which was literally years after we broke up...it's still stung just a little bit, even though I had way moved on. Also, generally speaking, guys are very temperamental about their male friends banging their ex-gfs. They have this ownership feeling that takes awhile to dissipate. Obviously, that's a bad thing, because ti's a hardcore sign of insecurity. For me personally, I would have no problem with a pal banging an ex these days. Lance´s last blog post..Barack Obama Tells Us What Romance Is

By: lisaq

lisaq — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 12:15:59 +0000

Jealousy definitely isn’t rational. It does some weird crap to us doesn’t it? I wonder if, in this case SINgle GIRL, it was because she found what you were looking for with someone you had gone out with. Just a thought.

By: SINgleGIRL

SINgleGIRL — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 20:20:41 +0000

OK? That depends, I guess. There's a pretty good chance you're going to lose the friend over it. I have a friend who lost a good friend and roommate over a guy. The roommate only went out with him a couple times, there were no sparks (she said she totally wasn't into him). When my friend met the guy out a month later and he asked her out she immediately asked permission from her roommate. Roommate said "sure, what do I care, I didn't like him." Skip ahead several months, roommate is insanely jealous, their friendship is destroyed and my friend is looking for a new place to live. A couple of years later and my friend and the guy are engaged. Some would say my friend did nothing wrong. I agree. She was honest are respectful of her roommates feelings and if roommate said no, don't date him, she wouldn't have. And now she's marrying the guy. She did nothing WRONG. But what she did do what put her friendship at risk. And I think that that will ALWAYS be the case when someone's ex (even when they only went out a couple of times and permission was asked and granted) is involved. Jealousy is a strange thing. It isn't rational. SINgleGIRL´s last blog post..Dysfunction Junction

By: lisaq

lisaq — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 21:13:04 +0000

It definitely can be Gwen. It’s something I obviously learned I couldn’t do and I think I would be hurt still if a friend did to me.

Haha Craze. Short, sweet, and to the point!

By: Craze

Craze — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 21:42:23 +0000

NO, it’s never ok.

By: auntiegwen

auntiegwen — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 12:24:17 +0000

Tricky one, I suppose it might depend on how serious the relationship was. Although I have no desire to get back with my ex husband after 2 decades together, could I let a friend date him ? That would be a no. auntiegwen´s last blog post..At school today...