Comments on: Will Obama’s Victory Affect Attitudes Toward Interracial Dating?

By: OptimusPrime

OptimusPrime — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 03:48:35 +0000

Oh and also couldn’t resistance on the part of black people to interracial dating be for the same reason it is for many white people (even some of the commenters’ own relatives)—a desire not to “pollute the race” or beliefs in racial stereotypes (ex: all black men are bad…/…all white men are racists)

By: OptimusPrime

OptimusPrime — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 03:29:19 +0000

I don’t think it does any good to look at the race/gender of the person doing the interracial dating because that only tells you those 2 races/genders don’t want to be together. It is a serious error in reasoning to infer from that that black women want to date white men and are being rejected or that black men and white women marriage are exploding (I don’t believe they are according to statistics). Even though I did not vote for Obama for policy reasons, I realize people look at him as a transformative figure. However, real change doesn’t come because of symbols, it comes from changing hearts. I don’t think 1 election can change hearts on a wide scale nor do I believe it should.

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By: lisaq

lisaq — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 21:10:42 +0000

I agree Lance. I think it’s probably more a sign of the times than anything.

Bobby, when I meet a man, I meet a man. Not an Asian man or a black man or a white man. Just a man. I don’t think now there’s an attractive black man anymore than I think now there’s an attractive blonde man or tall man. I just think now there’s an attractive man. I agree that ignorance keeps people from seeing the beauty of people and intensifies their racism causing them to spew all kinds of nasty stuff. For those people, sadly, nothing much will change unless, as you say, it deepens their hatred and intolerance. Hopefully, in the future, it will become less about race and more about people.

I definitely think you are lucky to be from where you’re from SINgle Girl. Being raised in the conservative, Republican midwest, I admit my attitudes have not always been so open. In fact, there are some in my family who would shudder if I brought home a black man. Not that that would stop me…just sayin’.

By: SINgleGIRL

SINgleGIRL — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 04:50:00 +0000

I think this is one of those cases where my personal experience puts me outside the normal range of experience. At 38 I'm not 'young' by this crowd's standards, but I've always been an equal opportunity dater and have dated guys from most racial/ethnic backgrounds (and am actually least likely to pursue relationships with guys who have family backgrounds identical to mine). And I have cousins who've married people from other cultures and they've been welcomed into the family. But then, I'm from New York. Sure, there are racial and ethnic tensions here. Probably in ways that don't exist in other places. But for the most part this is a pretty easy place to be an open dater. I feel pretty lucky about that and hope that that spirit spreads across the country. It'd suck to have my romantic choices limited by things like race and small-mindedness. SINgleGIRL´s last blog post..Good Daters and Bad Daters, Part 1 - The Good

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By: bobby

bobby — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 18:58:20 +0000

Good question, so here are some thoughts.
“Many people, including yours truly, will tell you that, when choosing a potential partner, they don’t see color; they simply see a man. What is important is his character, his values, his personality.”

On the surface, I disagree. I think we all notice if the person is Asian, African American, Latin etc. I think you mean deeper than that and I agree. However, I’m not sure that seeing color is a good or bad thing. I mean some have a preference for another culture or color and specifically look for that in a partner. I agree though that it’s the PERSON we need to focus on

Read some of the blogs about politics and you’ll hear some of the most vile stuff one can hear. Nothing has changed for some, and for others, things are even worse now that Obama will be in charge. It’s all about ignorance.

Will much change towards bi-racial attitudes? The future will tell, but l like to say; let’s dare to hope

bobby´s last blog post..Threatened by other’s relationships.

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 16:16:36 +0000

I see it as more of a sign of the times than a catalyst for exploding interracial dating. It's also helpful that there's an information explosion (on the net) about dating/relationships that sort of de-mystifies dating outside of your race. Lance´s last blog post..I Canvassed For Barack Obama On Election Day

By: lisaq

lisaq — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 11:53:23 +0000

I agree Will. He absolutely did instill hope…something we desperately needed. I also agree that there has been a great lessening of fear. Quite an impressive turn of events!

You’re right Cathouse Terri. We can only wait and see.

Oh yes Gwen. We’ve come a long way baby!

That’s a very good point Honey. I think you may have indeed hit upon the reason black women are so upset.

Thanks Kira! I can’t believe I had forgotten D’s funeral and the impact it had. So glad you reminded me.

I definitely believe young people are more open minded. It’s the same with gay & lesbian relationships. They didn’t grow up with the biases many of us did.

By: Anonymous Coward

Anonymous Coward — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 19:37:57 +0000

Most young people aren’t opposed to going out with an attractive person of a different color, race, ethnicity.

When they go out to the clubs and bars they seemingly self-segregate.

Some of that is based on the kind of experience they want to have (Frat Bar? Electronica Lounge? mega club with rap and R&B).

But some of that segregation isn’t so benign. Be it patrons who are turned off when they don’t see themselves represented in the line outside the club, or venue owners who want to cultivate a particular crowd.