Comments on: Creepers: The Common Bar Predator http://20-forty.com/2008/10/29/creepers-the-common-bar-predator/ Because love isn't always 20/20! Fri, 12 Mar 2010 11:03:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Best Weekend Reading From Around the Web 11/1 http://20-forty.com/2008/10/29/creepers-the-common-bar-predator/comment-page-1/#comment-3989 Best Weekend Reading From Around the Web 11/1 Sun, 02 Nov 2008 07:11:47 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=672#comment-3989 [...] you a creeper?  Kira explains the different kinds of creepers that roam around [...] [...] you a creeper?  Kira explains the different kinds of creepers that roam around [...]

]]> By: Honey http://20-forty.com/2008/10/29/creepers-the-common-bar-predator/comment-page-1/#comment-3836 Honey Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:34:37 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=672#comment-3836 Ugh. You're interest. What was I thinking?! YOUR interest, is what I meant... <abbr><em>Honey´s last blog post..<a href="http://honeyandlance.com/he-ripped-my-clothes-off" rel="nofollow">He Ripped My Clothes Off!</a></abbr></em> Ugh. You’re interest. What was I thinking?! YOUR interest, is what I meant…

Honey´s last blog post..He Ripped My Clothes Off!

]]> By: Honey http://20-forty.com/2008/10/29/creepers-the-common-bar-predator/comment-page-1/#comment-3835 Honey Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:33:56 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=672#comment-3835 When I was dating on Match and found myself concluding that someone was not a keeper, I would simply say, "I appreciate you're interest, but I'm not interested" the next time they contacted me. At a club, if a creeper offered to buy me a drink or asked me to dance, I would do as Brad says and simply say, "No." The thing about these creepers is that as soon as you give them a "reason," they think you are bargaining with them, and that if they can come up with something that trumps or overcomes your "reason," you will acquiesce to whatever they want. Unfortunately, women who feel bad for being dishonest (which they are, even if they're not lying) often fall for this. Just say no! <abbr><em>Honey´s last blog post..<a href="http://honeyandlance.com/he-ripped-my-clothes-off" rel="nofollow">He Ripped My Clothes Off!</a></abbr></em> When I was dating on Match and found myself concluding that someone was not a keeper, I would simply say, “I appreciate you’re interest, but I’m not interested” the next time they contacted me.

At a club, if a creeper offered to buy me a drink or asked me to dance, I would do as Brad says and simply say, “No.” The thing about these creepers is that as soon as you give them a “reason,” they think you are bargaining with them, and that if they can come up with something that trumps or overcomes your “reason,” you will acquiesce to whatever they want. Unfortunately, women who feel bad for being dishonest (which they are, even if they’re not lying) often fall for this.

Just say no!

Honey´s last blog post..He Ripped My Clothes Off!

]]> By: Brad K. http://20-forty.com/2008/10/29/creepers-the-common-bar-predator/comment-page-1/#comment-3832 Brad K. Wed, 29 Oct 2008 13:30:57 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=672#comment-3832 Kira, Have you tried a simple, "No.", no emphasis, no repetition, just a simple, "No." Maybe if he is polite, a "No, thank you." No explanation. And break eye contact. If you can't say "no" and mean it, why risk yourself hanging out where the assumption is a 'connection' is for a sex romp? <abbr><em>Brad K.´s last blog post..<a href="http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/10/28/dating-fatigue-to-lisaq/" rel="nofollow">Dating Fatigue - To LisaQ</a></abbr></em> Kira, Have you tried a simple, “No.”, no emphasis, no repetition, just a simple, “No.” Maybe if he is polite, a “No, thank you.” No explanation.

And break eye contact.

If you can’t say “no” and mean it, why risk yourself hanging out where the assumption is a ‘connection’ is for a sex romp?

Brad K.´s last blog post..Dating Fatigue – To LisaQ

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