Comments on: Polyamory

By: Honey

Honey — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 16:27:09 +0000

Thanks, Kira! It was very clear that for the first couple I mentioned, their relationship would always come first unless they met someone(s) that they BOTH felt comfortable bringing into the mix on a permanent basis. They were happy and quite devoted to one another; I hung out with them together on numerous occasions and they were both very normal, natural people. I think the other couple was just bonkers, but there are plenty of people (the vast majority, IMO) who are single and bonkers, so I don't think it had anything to do with whether they were poly. Honey´s last blog post..I PWNed this Blog, Bitchez!!

By: kira

kira — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 17:22:00 +0000

BradK- Those involved in polyamorous relationships would very likely disagree with you, as do I. It is not a perpetual date but a committed relationship in every sense. There are married couples who have children that also participate in polyamory and consider every one of their partners to be part of their family. A common misconception is that polyamory is motivated by sex when in fact it is most often motivated by love. Those who practice polyamory believe it possible to love many people truly and completely and find it senseless to restrict that love.

Honey- Thank you for sharing your experiences! I think it is important for people to know that those involved in polyamorous relationships often do have very sold, committed relationships, as you stated the first poly man you dated had with his primary partner.

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By: Honey

Honey — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 01:47:59 +0000

Oh, I actually forgot to mention...I dated two polyamorous men who were married. The second one, though, was kind of forced into being poly because his wife made it clear she would divorce him if the relationship wasn't open. I only went out with him a couple times because it was clear he wasn't really on board with what was happening with his wife and he had rage issues. Bad sitch. Honey´s last blog post..Morning Sex (And Other Sex)

By: Honey

Honey — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 01:46:30 +0000

I dated a polyamorous man who was married to what he referred to as his "primary partner." They had a committed and wonderful relationship, had lost their virginity to each other. I think he was more into having external partners than she was, but it was clear their relationship was rock solid. He and I didn't work out, but it wasn't because he was poly. We were just a bad fit in other ways. Honey´s last blog post..Morning Sex (And Other Sex)

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 00:13:07 +0000

This seems more like perpetual dating than building a family. A slick (as in, deceptive) way to avoid labels like polygamy. And a waste of resources, a way to avoid commitment. Brad K.´s last blog post..Virginity - Gateway to love, or stumbling block to sex?

By: kira

kira — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 18:50:37 +0000

Shawn- Great input. It is definitely one of things that is perfect for some and couldn’t be more wrong for others. There was a couple on the Tyra show that participated in an open relationship introduced other partners, most of which were female. They mentioned that it depends on the sexual orientation of each individual. The female of the main relationship (I apologize but their names escape me) is bisexual while her husband is straight. This explains the addition of more females than males to the relationship.

saneandsingle- I am with ya! It’s not for me either!

By: saneandsingle

saneandsingle — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 01:35:51 +0000

Nah, not for me man! saneandsingle´s last blog post..Stress, Stress, and I Don't Care!

By: Shawn

Shawn — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 12:02:07 +0000

During the BCE time of humanity, the women did enjoyed sexual relations with one another and the men had many wives, although the wives could enjoy each other, also. There were people that also had a monogamous relationships.

If a person looks at the subject, some men and women (not all) need more, the same partner can get boring and old.

Although each person is different and each situation is different, I have known happy married couples that would add another women or man for sexual gratification, but they are still committed to each other. Some men and women could not deal with any external side play in their relationship.

For the guy it seems like another women added would be more popular than an extra man, although I could be wrong.