Comments on: Date or Spanish Inquisition? http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/ Because love isn't always 20/20! Wed, 07 Jan 2009 00:15:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Brad K. http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-2348 Brad K. Tue, 07 Oct 2008 16:03:39 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-2348 LisaQ, At some level, his questions likely felt like the profiles we fill out for online dating sites. And you likely had a bit of morbid curiosity to find out how the screening turned out - whether you respected his answer, whether the 'test' was well put together. This likely wouldn't have been such a negative experience for you if you hadn't been thinking "this is supposed to be a date - where the hell is the mutual admiration, enjoyment, intimacy?" His biggest problem is lack of social network. He hasn't learned to network at all. All the questions? Polite society expects us to use our family, our friends, our research skills to find out, quietly, about a possible mate's background, temperament, hopes, fears, attachments and accomplishments. Even a moron would know you have to have some basis for asking a bunch of questions - or you can't tell the truth from the polite stories. Have your crotchetiest (elderly if possible, maybe great-)aunt call Bozo and give him an earful about the role family plays in preparing for a life together. Show him there are consequences to dating someone past high school, in Map Dot. I am sorry that your expectations of a date were different than his attempt to get ready for a 'first date'. Better luck next time! <abbr><em>Brad K.´s last blog post..<a href="http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/10/05/family-music/" rel="nofollow">Family Music</a></abbr></em> LisaQ, At some level, his questions likely felt like the profiles we fill out for online dating sites. And you likely had a bit of morbid curiosity to find out how the screening turned out - whether you respected his answer, whether the ‘test’ was well put together.

This likely wouldn’t have been such a negative experience for you if you hadn’t been thinking “this is supposed to be a date - where the hell is the mutual admiration, enjoyment, intimacy?” His biggest problem is lack of social network. He hasn’t learned to network at all. All the questions? Polite society expects us to use our family, our friends, our research skills to find out, quietly, about a possible mate’s background, temperament, hopes, fears, attachments and accomplishments.

Even a moron would know you have to have some basis for asking a bunch of questions - or you can’t tell the truth from the polite stories.

Have your crotchetiest (elderly if possible, maybe great-)aunt call Bozo and give him an earful about the role family plays in preparing for a life together. Show him there are consequences to dating someone past high school, in Map Dot.

I am sorry that your expectations of a date were different than his attempt to get ready for a ‘first date’. Better luck next time!

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]]> By: lisaq http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-2049 lisaq Sat, 04 Oct 2008 11:52:52 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-2049 Yeah, I can't see myself speed dating either Gwen. Saving pennies... Maybe Tee. No more blinders! Yeah Craze that may have been it...and especially one that was local. Me too Dad's House. It was horribly uncomfortable. I kept expecting the cuffs to come out and cell door to slam. Ugh. How you make money? Really? I can't even imagine asking someone that. Yeah Honey. Yuck is just the word. I definitely made it clear it was the last date. I'll remember your suggestion though in case, God forbid, I end up in another inquisition. Hope. Yep, SINgleGIRL I definitely still have hope. Thanks girl. lisaqs last blog post..<a href="http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/" rel="nofollow">Date or Spanish Inquisition?</a> Yeah, I can’t see myself speed dating either Gwen. Saving pennies…

Maybe Tee. No more blinders!

Yeah Craze that may have been it…and especially one that was
local.

Me too Dad’s House. It was horribly uncomfortable. I kept expecting the cuffs to come out and cell door to slam. Ugh. How you make money? Really? I can’t even imagine asking someone that.

Yeah Honey. Yuck is just the word. I definitely made it clear it was the last date. I’ll remember your suggestion though in case, God forbid, I end up in another inquisition.

Hope. Yep, SINgleGIRL I definitely still have hope. Thanks girl.

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]]> By: SINgleGIRL http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-2001 SINgleGIRL Fri, 03 Oct 2008 22:15:55 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-2001 You still have hope. That's a good thing. Sometimes our hope blinds us to the most obvious facts. Cut yourself a break and continue to hope for someone/something better. You deserve it. SINgleGIRLs last blog post..<a href="http://sex-lies-dating.blogspot.com/2008/10/dont-be-shy.html" rel="nofollow">Don't Be Shy</a> You still have hope. That’s a good thing. Sometimes our hope blinds us to the most obvious facts. Cut yourself a break and continue to hope for someone/something better. You deserve it.

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]]> By: Honey http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-1979 Honey Fri, 03 Oct 2008 17:57:05 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-1979 Yuck, yuck, yuck. If you haven't already made it clear to him that this was the last date, you could try and turn the tables a little...can you guess what would make him really uncomfortable? Then at least you can imagine how satisfying it would feel to do it... Honeys last blog post..<a href="http://honeyandlance.com/ive-had-sex-with-three-virgins-and-im-gonna-tell-you-about-it" rel="nofollow">I’ve Had Sex With Three Virgins And I’m Gonna Tell You About It</a> Yuck, yuck, yuck. If you haven’t already made it clear to him that this was the last date, you could try and turn the tables a little…can you guess what would make him really uncomfortable? Then at least you can imagine how satisfying it would feel to do it…

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]]> By: dadshouse http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-1974 dadshouse Fri, 03 Oct 2008 16:34:12 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-1974 Oh, I hate interview dates. An inquisition like that would drive me crazy. The question I hate more than all others? "How do you make money?" Um, I work? If they cared what my interests or passions were, they could ask. The question seems more tuned to figure out how much I make. dadshouses last blog post..<a href="http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/10/02/smashing-pumpkins-the-fillmore-residency/" rel="nofollow">Smashing Pumpkins, The Fillmore Residency</a> Oh, I hate interview dates. An inquisition like that would drive me crazy. The question I hate more than all others? “How do you make money?” Um, I work? If they cared what my interests or passions were, they could ask. The question seems more tuned to figure out how much I make.

dadshouses last blog post..Smashing Pumpkins, The Fillmore Residency

]]> By: craze http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-1966 craze Fri, 03 Oct 2008 14:25:47 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-1966 You agreed with hopes that you might meet a decent guy. Nothing wrong with that. crazes last blog post..<a href="http://crazedreamersthoughts.blogspot.com/2008/10/go-go-go-big-blue.html" rel="nofollow">GO, GO, GO BIG BLUE</a> You agreed with hopes that you might meet a decent guy. Nothing wrong with that.

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]]> By: Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-1962 Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts Fri, 03 Oct 2008 13:56:40 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-1962 Sometimes, we put on blinders and want to see the best in people and give them a chance. I thnk that is what you were doing. Just wanting to give the guy every opportunity to make sure he wasn't the jerk he appeared to be and he proved he was unfortuntely. Tee aka The Diva's Thoughtss last blog post..<a href="http://divateesthoughts.blogspot.com/2008/10/no-post-here-folks-move-along_02.html" rel="nofollow">No Post Here Folks, Move Along</a> Sometimes, we put on blinders and want to see the best in people and give them a chance. I thnk that is what you were doing. Just wanting to give the guy every opportunity to make sure he wasn’t the jerk he appeared to be and he proved he was unfortuntely.

Tee aka The Diva’s Thoughtss last blog post..No Post Here Folks, Move Along

]]> By: auntiegwen http://20-forty.com/2008/10/03/date-or-spanish-inquisition/#comment-1950 auntiegwen Fri, 03 Oct 2008 11:34:56 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=640#comment-1950 It's because you want to see the best in people sweetie. A triumph of hope over experience. My newly single friend M is trying to date like crazy presently. Every morning she texts me with a new plan to meet men. Speed dating was todays suggestion, can you imagine me at speed dating, thought not, me neither, it sounds like having 20 job interviews one after the other !!! So keep saving your cents and I'll keep saving my pennies and we'll meet up and paint the world red ! xxxx auntiegwens last blog post..<a href="http://auntiegwensdiary.blogspot.com/2008/10/10-places-i-have-never-been.html" rel="nofollow">10 Places I Have Never Been</a> It’s because you want to see the best in people sweetie. A triumph of hope over experience.

My newly single friend M is trying to date like crazy presently. Every morning she texts me with a new plan to meet men. Speed dating was todays suggestion, can you imagine me at speed dating, thought not, me neither, it sounds like having 20 job interviews one after the other !!!

So keep saving your cents and I’ll keep saving my pennies and we’ll meet up and paint the world red ! xxxx

auntiegwens last blog post..10 Places I Have Never Been

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