Comments on: So, There’s This Boy-Guest Post

By: How To Approach the Much Younger Man

How To Approach the Much Younger Man — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 14:04:48 +0000

[...] borrow a line from Kaci, so there’s this boy. A totally different situation but a boy nonetheless. The boy in question is one I happened to work [...]

By: saneandsingle

saneandsingle — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 18:41:10 +0000

I once met my “soulmate”, but…..he was married!! We worked together and developed feelings for one another. He had been married for a few years. We DID NOT get intimate, well not physically intimate anyway. Thank God he finally moved to another state…with his wife. Grrr…

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By: Suz

Suz — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 14:00:40 +0000

Kaci you are a smart girl! You have a good head on your shoulders! There is no harm in texting or flirting at all! Just please remember to guard your heart and don’t allow yourself to fall in love with this guy cause! Playing is learning about life! We can’t move to the next level until we’ve played the games as they come along! Plus its fun and exciting!

By: Meghan

Meghan — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 12:48:52 +0000

I sometimes abhor that ‘crush’ feeling as I wonder if I am too old for the crush! It is delicious though!

In this moment, it does seem it will be best to hold back and let the chips fall where they may…even though we edge them to our side of the table in our head!

By: Kaci

Kaci — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 21:25:44 +0000

Although you all have valid points, I think you are forgetting the most important thing- nothing has actually happened between us. I’m not trying to say that the flirting and texting is right, but it’s so easy to get caught up in something whether or not it’s the right thing to do. Brad K.- I’m not going to go out of my way to avoid him. In a small restaurant, running into each other is more accidental than on purpose. Moody- What this says about me is that I’m like any other normal girl who lets her feelings overcome her. And I have had a boyfriend texting another girl behind my back and I wanted to hunt her down and kill her…If I were his girlfriend, I’d want to kill me too. I’m not looking to be a homewrecker, I’m just human.

By: craze

craze — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 15:08:29 +0000

This smells like trouble no matter how you look at it. Do you really want to go out with a guy that treats his girlfriend like that? Sure, flirting can be fun but it sounds like this has gone a little beyond that, right into inappropriate. He seems like such a great guy because you aren't dating him. You gotta have the backs of women out there and end this flirty relationship. crazes last blog post..Think Green

By: moody.bitch

moody.bitch — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 14:59:02 +0000

Yes, everything happens for a reason, and right now, the “reason” is so you can see exactly what kind of loser he is! He’s the kind of guy who would betray a girlfriend of three years by flirting and texting with another girl. And, what does it say about *you* that you would even *want* a guy who thinks this type of behavior is okay?

Who cares if you got one amazing night or even a dozen of them out of forcing them to break up, it’s BAD CHICK KARMA to jack up someone else’s relationship. Do unto others and all that: would you want some other girl flirting and texting with your BF behind your back? I think not!

Stop fantasizing about this loser and find a guy who’s not already in a relationship with someone else. There’s just no excuse for this type of girl-on-girl crime. Pffft.

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 14:51:48 +0000

Kaci,

First off, the guy isn’t perfect. The intimate – texting, flirting – stuff he does with you? Disrespect for himself, and for his gf.

Next, where is your respect? As long as you are aware he has someone in his life, you need to respect his choice – that the other girl has precedence.

Much of the lust (crush) you are experiencing is physical – hormones. This happens as people spend time close to each other, sharing breaths, eye contact, body language conversations. Our bodies adapt to those we spend time with. That is the reason a honeymoon – originally intended to exclude all other people, just so this physical bond develops, not today’s displays of conspicuous consumption at expensive tourist resorts – used to be so effective (maybe the reason marriages aren’t as long lasting?). Put at least two feet more space between you and him at all times, minimum, and avoid opportunities to get closer than 15 feet when you can. 15 feet – that is the distance between hash marks on the football field. In marching band, that is 8 regular steps, 6 big steps. Yes – back off.

Suppose he did leave his gf for you. You know, for dead certain sure, that he flirts with other women. And he would have left one woman for another, to your sure knowledge. How secure and happy would that make you feel, to have ‘hold’ of a drifter?

Then, there are all the stereotypes of office flings – from the bad jokes to loused up work to gossip to unfair treatment to loss of job.

It is better for you and for him that nothing happen, and less of what is going on, too.

Brad K.s last blog post..I got this spam – they sent it to the wrong guy