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Hooray For Support Systems!
I have been on this Earth for just 24 short years and in those few years I have seen and been through more than my fair share of hardships. However, something I have always known, but have just come to realize in the past week, is that I have also had my fair share of fortune.
This past weekend was the most trying weekend I have had in a long time. It was my birthday and supposed to be an amazing weekend but it began by everyone showing up at least 45 minutes late. It then spiraled downward when I got called a bitch, called the name of a girl I hate, fought with my roommate, had my computer crash at work, got a 10% tip on the only table I had at my second job, freaked out on my mom, damn near failed a test, and got my car window shot out. Happy Birthday right?
But as I was finishing up my 5 page paper for my composition class, it hit me. I am seriously stressed out from the happenings of the weekend and when you combine that with the pressures of school and work, it is a miracle that I am still standing. I’ve worked through almost every situation from the weekend (except the window which has just been ordered!) and knocked out a kick ass paper to boot.
Remember the part where I freaked out on my mom? Well it was ugly (sorry mom) and largely brought on by the amount of alcohol I had consumed (which was way too much and waaaaay more than normal). Anyhow, during the during the meltdown, my mom said something really smart, which she does frequently. She told me how strong I was. She said, “you work two jobs with crazy hours and go to school full time. Shut up! Do you know how many people would crack under that pressure?” She got me thinking.
So far, I haven’t cracked. I have come really damn close and frequently have to stop, take a breath, and reorganize my thoughts. But I am still standing, still breathing, and, for the most part, still sane. So then I wondered why. If most would have buckled, why haven’t I?
The answer is simple. My family. If there is one thing in my life to be thankful for, it is my support system. I have an incredible relationship with my mom and consider myself very fortunate for that. I know that when life gets overwhelming or I need advice, that she is only a phone call and a relatively short drive away.
My grandparents are saints. There are situations in life that I wouldn’t have known what to do in without them. This year I have had two car windows broken out, two washers break (one damn near exploded), have had to move twice, and a number of other unfavorable situations; yet, every time they are there. They tell me to take a deep breath and to let them help me through it. Knowing that I have that help is more refreshing than I can even say. I would be lost without them.
A solid support system is something everyone should have. They can consist of friends, parents, your spouse and children, grandparents, cousins, whoever you can depend on to be there when it counts. That is not to say you should completely depend on them to solve every one of your problems, but knowing you aren’t alone in your battles can make them much easier to tackle.
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Honey September 25th, 2008, 11:10 am
I’m glad you have such a great support system. The BF and I aren’t close to our families (though I have a reunion tomorrow with three aunts that I haven’t seen in years if not decades…which, considering I haven’t even finished 3 decades, is a long time) but he and I are always there for each other.
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Brad K. September 25th, 2008, 9:22 pm
Kira, ‘Accentuate the positive’. Huh. Who knew it works?
I think a good part of your accomplishments, persistence, and honor, are the early examples and training you got as a toddler and younger. A solid beginning that is still holding you firm.
Blessed be! (And, please, avoid the ‘window shot out’ stuff.)
lisaq September 26th, 2008, 6:06 am
I’m going to take that as a compliment BradK!
Seriously though, sweetie, you are one of the strongest people I know. You make me proud every single day. Being there for each other is what we do. You do your own share of supporting for example with G. I love you! You will do and be whatever you choose!
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