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By: lisaq

lisaq — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 15:01:56 +0000

Hey Sinfully what was it you were saying about sleep deprivation? I didn’t even notice you spelled banana wrong. I need some ZZZ’s…badly!

Carol I absolutely love it and am sooooooo going to use that line the very next time…and it will. *sigh*

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By: Carol

Carol — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 14:56:47 +0000

*giggles* I have heard similar things so many times that I have come back with my own brand of facetiousness. Nothing tears apart a mid-twenties man more than making his moves on a ‘hot, older woman” than that woman saying something positive to put him in his place. You know, “aw, thanks…my last boyfriend was about your age but he swore I was hot for ANY age!” Kind of lets them know they missed the boat.

I am with you. A compliment with a disclaimer of any sort is not a compliment.

By: SinfullyAnon

SinfullyAnon — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 05:21:05 +0000

See!
I was so excited, in anticipation
of your answer, I spelled “banana” wrong.

(Who would’ve ever guessed I worked in Safeway~~lol!)

ZZZzzzz! xx

By: lisaq

lisaq — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 11:26:12 +0000

Haha Honey! Nicely done!

I love bananas Sinfully. Hehe…

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By: SinfullyAnon

SinfullyAnon — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 19:11:18 +0000

I’m shy….

..usually, I’ll just make an offhand comment
upon the firmness of green bananas. [j/k];…

however, humor does help, if you’re thin as a rail,
and you want your target “attractor” to look beyond
your waist size.

I wish I was in the Grocery store when you were there.
Do you like banannas, btw.

~x~SinfullyAnon

By: Honey

Honey — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 16:16:04 +0000

LisaQ, once I saw a guy at a bar that I’d e-mailed on Match who never e-mailed me back. I went up to him to say hi and that I’d recognized him from the site, and he was like, “Oh, you’re much prettier in person! I would have e-mailed you back if I’d known!” I said, “If I’d known you were an asshole I wouldn’t have e-mailed you in the first place!” And that was that…

By: lisaq

lisaq — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 10:50:40 +0000

Not even kidding sane and single. He & his big sloppy wife & friend were attacking the salad bar. Ruined my dinner. And I hear ya. They should just say nothing.

Not worried BradK. Disgusted and offended, yes. Worried, no. I definitely like the condolences retort. I’ll be using that one if I find myself in a similar situation again.

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 03:33:30 +0000

LisaQ, I am not sure what you are concerned about – that he got away without a keeper, that he was off his medication, or that he lives in such a constrained and repressive environment, that he might think he was .. what? .. maybe sharing his arousal at your stunning appearance?

What in the world was his wife doing, letting him make propositions like that? Walking up to a woman and expressing appreciation of her appearance is way beyond casual flirting – it is right next to adultery. The lameness of his comment was much less important that a) he was making sexual innuendoes; b) he is attached; and more interesting, c) he makes the proposition before his proposal was unwanted.

This was not polite conversation; it was inappropriate. He might have wolf-whistled (i.e., acted like an animal), he might have flashed his genitals. It was all one and the same – rude. Perhaps treatable or criminal. Whatever.

The older comment probably was because of his fixation on his lost youth.

I suggest that one retort might have gone something like: “Golly, that felt rude. I wasn’t aware I had asked you to comment on my appearance, my age, or your relationship status. Please convey my condolences to your wife.”

By: saneandsingle

saneandsingle — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 17:28:50 +0000

That man doesn’t eat salad! You don’t get a sloppy look like that from salad! LOL

Seriously, I hate backhanded compliments of any kind! I’m pretty smart for a woman with big boobs! Did you know that?

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