Yeah, we’re biased; toward being informed and talking about sex and other relationship topics openly and honestly. It is our goal to get our society through this dense fog of sex-o-phobia and get to where we can talk to our kids about this stuff.

Who knows, maybe we can cut the STD rate in half if we actually passed out condoms like Lance suggests above - right on Lance!

It is absolutely astounding to me that from what I understand they can’t talk about condoms in some government school classroom sex ed programs. Unless there’s a new “silly putty” protection scheme I don’t know about, condoms are still the way to go. And our kids are still dying from STDs and making babies in their teens.

Wow, there goes another rant. It may be time for bed, I seem to be getting cranky.

Have a great evening!
Dan

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This is a very complex issue indeed, but at the end of the day, the “adults” are shirking their responsibility to educate the young and we have incredible STD and teen pregnancy rates.

The current policy from our government is unfortunately based on the religious preferences of a certain group, and that’s a major disservice to so many (see my STD comment above). Want to indoctrinate your kids in a particular religion and pretend sex doesn’t exist in the real world? Good for you; send your kids to one of the countless religious schools that are as popular as Starbucks locations these days.

The government policy today basically promotes ignorance to our children. You can’t make smart choices out of ignorance; it’s never worked in the past and it can’t work. It’s hard to find a time in human history when ignorance has been a winning strategy. What you don’t know CAN hurt you.

Sure, we should absolutely discourage our children from having sex until they’re old enough. In fact they should learn exactly what can happen, and how to avoid it. Duh! (sorry, i promise this will be the only instance of “duh” in this post; it’s late, we’re running short on eloquent).

But if super innocent, fully religiously indoctrinated, and even incredibly devout little Johnny has a weak moment (after a sneaking a few beers or whatever - and i’m not even going there, not tonight) I’d rather he had some clue how to protect himself and his girlfriend from STDs and making a baby.

Again, I choose informed over ignorance, any day of the week.

Perhaps we could send flyers to parents, you know, so they can check the box of type of sex ed they’d like their kid to get:
- ignorance (the ostritch approach - pretend it ain’t there and hope it doesn’t bite you) and discouragement
- informed discouragement

Again, it’s a very complex issue with lots of different sides, and we actually did a pretty controversial (no, really?) video on this - part of our live show.

Check out the video and the really great discussion we had on this topic in the Censorship and Sexual Repression Forum here - Why Our Kids Need Honest Sex Education, Not Ignorance (Video)

Would love for you to chime in on that discussion if you have something to add (which I’m guessing you do, LOL).

Have an awesome day!
Dan

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Parent’s should educate their kids on the finer points of sex (ie technique, attitudes, values), but if that is impossible, which it will be in many cases, then it falls on the kids themselves to get the information. I would definitely go with watching high quality porn, reading books and ebooks, and talking with knowledgeable mentors. Sex is the difference maker in healthy LTR’s and shouldn’t be hidden, repressed, or marginalized.

I agree with that 100%.

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As for the other, I, for example, am dating to find a life partner. I am not into casual sex. I don’t want casual sex and am not into dating as a numbers game. Your comment implies that it’s an either or situation and it’s not IMO. I’m looking for a long term monogamous relationship…a man to spend my life with…not to make babies with. I think you have to realize that everything is not black and white. There are lots of gray areas. It’s just not always so cut and dried.

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I chose a slightly different perspective: Decide, as a community, why people of any age should have sex.

For me the answer is pretty simple. Sex is for making babies. All the ‘fashion’, beer, and car commercials aside, people get hurt quite often when they aren’t focused on making a family and raising children.

Casual sex is most often casual dating, even if one or both participants want a deeper relationship, they seldom make the transition.

If your goal as a couple is to make a baby, you get a solid, defined payoff - you know when to celebrate, and can decide to rest on your laurels or try again. When your goal is to bang the prettiest girl, the hunkiest guy, or a different bed every night of the week (month?), those goals are unattainable - and distract one from settling down. When your goal is to find ‘the best’ sex partner, you have to keep looking - and you don’t notice the bum is manipulative, deceptive, and disrespectful until you are already invested in the mechanics of sharing a housing unit. A housing unit that will never grow into a home.

I don’t think that making a baby is the only time to engage in sexual intercourse. But making a baby as your goal, lets you pick a worthwhile partner. Umm, that is if that is the goal for both of you. No one likes surprises.

Before the convention, I had read that Palin was anti-abortion, but favored contraception. I guess she just doesn’t want to create an enticing sexual environment. It seems kind of a thin line to me, and I firmly believe pregnant women sometimes face much greater risks and challenges than abortion. In a time when there are no easy answers, it seems arrogant to take any of the choices away from those at risk.

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