Comments on: Relationships Are About Compromise, Love Isn’t http://20-forty.com/2008/09/07/relationships-are-about-compromise-love-isnt/ Because love isn't always 20/20! Fri, 12 Mar 2010 22:45:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: cheekie http://20-forty.com/2008/09/07/relationships-are-about-compromise-love-isnt/comment-page-1/#comment-1093 cheekie Mon, 08 Sep 2008 18:33:42 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=615#comment-1093 I agree with what both Honey and Craze have said. I love love. Absolutely. I love lust, and infatuation too. But, I think as you get older you begin to appreciate the friendship side of it more, and therefore all those 'ho hum' moments, the ones where you are watching tv all day in your jammies together. Or even those day to day disagreements and figuring out what to have for dinner (why is that always so bloody hard?)...well you start to see that that is part and parcel of the deal. And not so bad. In fact, it's rather nice. It isn't a sign that you have a 'boring' relationship or a broken one. Never settle, but make sure your expectations are reasonable first, then decide if it's what you want. :-) I agree with what both Honey and Craze have said.
I love love. Absolutely. I love lust, and infatuation too.
But, I think as you get older you begin to appreciate the friendship side of it more, and therefore all those ‘ho hum’ moments, the ones where you are watching tv all day in your jammies together. Or even those day to day disagreements and figuring out what to have for dinner (why is that always so bloody hard?)…well you start to see that that is part and parcel of the deal. And not so bad. In fact, it’s rather nice.
It isn’t a sign that you have a ‘boring’ relationship or a broken one.

Never settle, but make sure your expectations are reasonable first, then decide if it’s what you want.

:-)

]]> By: craze http://20-forty.com/2008/09/07/relationships-are-about-compromise-love-isnt/comment-page-1/#comment-1090 craze Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:51:31 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=615#comment-1090 Being in love with love isn't a bad thing unless it's clouding your vision and you search for someone with that purpose. I want to be in love and I want to get married someday but as the others have said I'm not about to settle. I want to fall in love with my best friend. Someone that makes me happy, smile, and laugh. Someone I can be ME with. If I find that, then awesome, if I don't, I'll stay single. crazes last blog post..<a href="http://crazedreamersthoughts.blogspot.com/2008/09/tgif.html" rel="nofollow">TGIF!</a> Being in love with love isn’t a bad thing unless it’s clouding your vision and you search for someone with that purpose. I want to be in love and I want to get married someday but as the others have said I’m not about to settle. I want to fall in love with my best friend. Someone that makes me happy, smile, and laugh. Someone I can be ME with. If I find that, then awesome, if I don’t, I’ll stay single.

crazes last blog post..TGIF!

]]> By: Honey http://20-forty.com/2008/09/07/relationships-are-about-compromise-love-isnt/comment-page-1/#comment-1089 Honey Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:30:01 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=615#comment-1089 You have to define what things are non-negotiable--that's what constitutes "settling" for each individual, I think. But yes, settling equals unhappiness or the relationship ending (and isn't fair to the other person, either). Or even if that relationship lasts, look how many relationships your friend has had to end in its place. How is that healthy? You have to define what things are non-negotiable–that’s what constitutes “settling” for each individual, I think. But yes, settling equals unhappiness or the relationship ending (and isn’t fair to the other person, either). Or even if that relationship lasts, look how many relationships your friend has had to end in its place. How is that healthy?

]]> By: Honey http://20-forty.com/2008/09/07/relationships-are-about-compromise-love-isnt/comment-page-1/#comment-1088 Honey Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:27:53 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=615#comment-1088 You have to define what things are non-negotiable--that's what constitutes "settling" for each individual, I think. But yes, settling equals unhappiness or the relationship ending (and isn't fair to the other person, either). You have to define what things are non-negotiable–that’s what constitutes “settling” for each individual, I think. But yes, settling equals unhappiness or the relationship ending (and isn’t fair to the other person, either).

]]> By: saneandsingle http://20-forty.com/2008/09/07/relationships-are-about-compromise-love-isnt/comment-page-1/#comment-1073 saneandsingle Sun, 07 Sep 2008 13:43:41 +0000 http://20-forty.com/?p=615#comment-1073 No one should settle. I haven't settled, as lonely as I am. I know how it feels to be lonely WITH someone too. If you don't truly love and care about your significant other, you won't be any happier in the relationship. saneandsingles last blog post..<a href="http://saneandsingle.blogspot.com/2008/09/not-so-sane.html" rel="nofollow">Not So Sane</a> No one should settle. I haven’t settled, as lonely as I am. I know how it feels to be lonely WITH someone too. If you don’t truly love and care about your significant other, you won’t be any happier in the relationship.

saneandsingles last blog post..Not So Sane

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