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Is It Better To Be Right, Or Better To Be HAPPY?
It’s a line right out of Dr. Phil usually when he’s got a couple or a family in turmoil. But what about the old beliefs rattling around in your head about men and relationships? Come on. You know the ones I’m talking about.
- *There are no good men out there.
- *I just have bad luck with men.
- *I don’t deserve to be loved.
- *Maybe there’s just no one out there for me.
Those beliefs. Because you really think you’re right about them, don’t you? How many times have you been talking to a girlfriend complaining about dating and one or more of those phrases have come out of your mouth?
You’re Right!
The fact of the matter is that, as long as you believe it, you’ll be right. Feel good? Isn’t that what you want? To be right?
The problem is right really, truly won’t make you happy. Right is a self fulfilling prophecy that’s going to keep you single. Right won’t keep you warm at night or take you out for a romantic dinner. Right is just…well, right.
Wouldn’t You Rather Be Wrong?
Seriously, wouldn’t you? What if there was an unlimited dating pool of wonderful, available men? Or if you suddenly started having good luck with men or found the guy made just for you? What if you were able to prove all of those old beliefs wrong?
The good news is they are wrong. The only place they’re right is in your head. And all you have to do is clear them.
But I Don’t Know How!
Sure you do! It’s a simple as making yourself happy; falling in love with yourself. That’s where it begins. Then throw in some positive affirmations and a better attitude toward men and dating and you’re almost there.
Okay, it won’t happen overnight and won’t always be easy. There will be times when you may think you’ll never get there…but you will. You can. It’s all up to you.
It’s easy to become jaded, to get down on yourself when you’ve been dating or single awhile especially if you’re dating in your 30s or 40s. People all around are paired up and you haven’t even had a good date, or maybe a bad date, in months. But it really is all up to you.
Fake It Til You Make It…
Start small. Make it your goal to be happy every day. Smile. Exude happiness. Even if you’re not feeling it. Soon it’ll come naturally.
Use positive self talk about why you’re “the” catch of the century and make a list of all of the reasons any man on Earth would be lucky to have you. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself.
Banish those negative beliefs about men and dating. Replace them with positive affirmations.
- *There are tons of good men out there just waiting to meet me!
- *I have incredibly good luck with men!
- *I am lovable and deserving of love!
- *Somewhere out there is a man made just for me!
Soon you’ll be happy….and right!
Thoughts!
Brad K. August 19th, 2008, 9:09 am
lisaq, two other things you can do. When you find weird or unsuitable guys? Stop hanging out where they hang out. Avoid that type of venue like the plague. Hint: there are bars when you can meet men, but no bars where you can meet good men.
The other is respect and honor. Find people that are respectful, and are respected for their character. Find people that are demonstrably honest in their lives. Live like that. Hang out with that kind of people.
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auntiegwen August 19th, 2008, 11:51 am
If you always do what you’ve always done
You’ll always get what you’ve always got
and if that’s not been good, you have to change your mindset a bit !
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craze August 19th, 2008, 12:18 pm
I couldn’t agree more. It’s all about the power of suggestion, the Law of the Universe. You first have to believe it WILL happen before it can.
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Honey August 19th, 2008, 2:30 pm
Couldn’t agree more, Lisaq!
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lisaq August 20th, 2008, 5:23 am
Good pointers BradK…thanks!
You’ve got that right Gwen! No doubt about it!
Exactly Craze! Exactly!
Thanks Honey!
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