Comments on: Liar Liar

By: Decoding Manspeak

Decoding Manspeak — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 10:38:02 +0000

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By: lisaq

lisaq — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 10:55:52 +0000

You got that right HAF! He IS a coward and not someone Kira would want in her life anyway. It's good to know what the hell was really going on. lisaqs last blog post..Men are like….

By: Hot Alpha Female

Hot Alpha Female — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 05:57:02 +0000

Well girl,
I think that its good that you found out the final reason why he did that to you.

At the end of the day he is a coward and why would you want to have anything to do with that?

Like i said before … even if you didn’t find out what the real reason was ….

It was not your fault and there is nothing that you did wrong.

You are doing and great …. and im sure that is a really good guy out there who will appreciate you for all that you are =)

Hot Alpha Female

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By: saneandsingle

saneandsingle — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 18:40:06 +0000

This is one of my pet peeves in dating. If you aren’t interested, just let me know! As you said, “I’m a big girl. I can handle it.”

And yes, I’d rather be hurt by the truth than to find out someone lied to me. Then not only am I hurt, I dislike that person for who he/she really is! This goes for romantic relationships and friendships alike.

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By: Will

Will — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 02:58:03 +0000

Well. That explains a lot.
I never was that interested in playing baseball, or basketball (Marfan’s limited my sporting activities.) Therefore, it seems, possible that I may have compensated by being much more in tune with others [no sign language for me!:0]…

..I can’t stand people who are shady~~(if they’re “slim” that’s ok..it’s “Shady” I don’t like!)

In every life Kira, you’re bound to run across people who lie for all kinds of reasons.
(I’m hearing the song, “Honesty,” by Billy Joel, playing)

You’re right. It’s still the best policy..There are better ways to say good-bye. This guy lost a potential friend.
You are much better off without him.

Great post, as always.

~x~Will

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By: Honey

Honey — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 19:25:31 +0000

I had a guy once tell me (after dating for I think 2 months) that the more and more he got to know me, the less and less interested he was in continuing to do so. Over the PHONE. While I was driving in the CAR. I remember that a lot more vividly (and with more negative emotional reaction) than any guy who just didn’t call when he said he would.

But I saw him 4 years later at a restaurant and I have to say, the guy I ended up with is a lot cuter

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By: kira

kira — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 18:44:00 +0000

What Brad says is cruelly accurate but that doesn’t make it right. I myself have some communication issues that I am working on but I do my best not to give people an invalid sense of the way things are. In the situation I ranted on, he literally said that he wanted to keep talking to me and then didn’t. That, my friends, was a flat out lie. I would have rather had no response at all than a false sense of hope.

By: craze

craze — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 18:40:17 +0000

Many women have had to deal with this very typical behavior. Instead of pondering or being frustrated with a man’s apparant inability to just come out and say things aren’t clicking for him I’ve taken another approach. It’s like the quote your mom gave, the best advise for dating women is not to listen to what he says but what he does. I’ve ingrained in to my mind the words of wisdome from Greg Behrendt, He’s Just Not That Into You – a man would rather be trampled my elephants than to just come out and say it’s not working and he doesn’t want to see you anymore. Why? Who the hell knows but we shouldn’t waste any of our precious time pondering it any longer. If a man is interested in you, he WILL show it.

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By: Loving Annie

Loving Annie — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 17:27:42 +0000

The truth is precious and it stinks when a guy is ambiguous or lies and leads someone on.
Brad’s analysis was cruelly accurate.
Communication is crucial – it’d be nice to know when you met someone whether they had it in them to be a good communicator or not BEFORE you got treated so disrespectfully. And yes, that goes for women as well. It is equal. If you’re done, be decent enough to say so.

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 14:07:05 +0000

On the other hand, quietly slipping off into the night leaves a bit of mystery. And it definitely avoids an emotional tantrum.

When the guy slips away, perhaps that means the girl isn’t a floor mat that invites being walked on. Whether she is dramatic, arrogant, or loyal, the guy risks retaliation if he steps up and says, “I am not interested that much. I would rather be away from you than with you. Goodbye.” If he has already lost interest, the relationship is over for him. And he has nothing invested in making the parting easier for her. Why would he stick around long enough to end it? What can she give him that he is interested in, when he considers the relationship to be over?

I think our culture has trained people, not just men, to be weasels about being there when their partner discovers they have been abandoned.

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