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Dating Online? Remember…You Get What You Ask For!
So, you’ve decided to bite the bullet and join an online dating site. You’ve worked hard on your profile and described yourself to a T in the essay part of your profile. You’ve even written a nice little ditty describing the man of your dreams. Ah, it’s perfect!
Are you sure? You really think you’re done? Have you completed all of the little check boxes about the person you’re looking for? Uh huh. I didn’t think so.
That “About My Date” section is there for a reason kids. It’s to clarify your dating preferences. Prefer to date tall men? Then fill in the section that asks “How tall should he be?” Like athletic men? Then check that little box in the section called “Are you looking for certain body types?”
Why it’s important
Here’s the thing. If you don’t specify what you are attracted to, you’ll get responses from all kinds of people who don’t fit what you’re looking for. They may be too short or too old or maybe they drink more than you’re comfortable with. That’s discouraging and unfair to you and to potential dates.
The other problem is that potential dates who are viewing your profile may think you’ll date anything will a pulse. Or that you really don’t know what you’re looking for in a partner. Not attractive at all kids.
But what if I don’t know what I want?
Really? Come on now. You know if you don’t want to date a smoker or if you’re not attracted to a certain body type. We all do. And it’s not about being picky. It’s about preferences and everyone has them. You’re not going to hurt someone’s feelings if you’re honest and upfront about what you’re looking for.
If you really don’t think you know, get out pictures of old partners and give ‘em the once over. What was it about them that attracted you to them? What turned you off? Then picture the ideal partner in your head. What does he or she look like? Tall, short, fit?
Now, pepper in a little reality. You’re not realistically going to find a dead ringer for Johnny Depp or an Angelina Jolie look alike. Well, okay maybe, but odds are against it.
Honesty goes a long way
Let’s face it. There are a lot of dishonest people on dating sites. There are those who lie blatantly, those who post old pictures or fake pictures, and on and on. Why add to those problems by not being honest with yourself and others about what you’re looking for in a partner?
Be honest. Be upfront. That way you attracting what you’re looking for and no one’s time is wasted. No one’s feelings get hurt.
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