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A Time Limit on Love? — Guest Post
NOTE: This one is written by none other than my beautiful baby daughter, Kaci!
Someone once asked me if loved is based on time. Questions such as are there certain steps in relationships that you must take and that require certain lengths of time before you get there. How many articles have you seen in which the title starts with “how long before…?” or “how many dates before…?” Even things like should you kiss on the first date?
If you see those articles, please rip them in half. Don’t listen to them. Love has no time limit. The reason it seems like it does is because people like to judge. People judge other’s relationships and say that there’s no way they can be in love they haven’t known each other long enough.
Love doesn’t happen after one week, one month, one year, so on and so forth. As the relationship progresses, love blossoms. It is different for every couple. I think it’s wrong to tell someone they can’t be or aren’t in love because it hasn’t been long enough. Some people want to move slow and set a sort of time frame for themselves, others want to move fast.
And although I don’t believe in time limits, I do believe in moving too fast. People get so caught up in new relationships they don’t take the time to focus on the relationship itself and don’t give everything the relationship needs.
But I’m not saying these relationships can’t work out in the long run because I absolutely believe they can. It isn’t how long you’ve known someone, it’s how MUCH you know about them. Along the same lines, people often judge teenagers who say they are in love, saying they are too young to be in love.
Love isn’t like alcohol, you don’t have to be 21 to feel it. I believe a fifteen year old can fall in love just as easily as a 26 year old can. I think most people use time limits and age limits as excuses for reasons why relationships end. You shouldn’t use “we moved too fast” as an excuse, it didn’t work out because you weren’t meant to be together, not because you moved too fast. Love doesn’t have a time limit or an age limit, love is love.
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