Mr. Unavailable & The Fallback Girl

Just the other day, I was tooting my own horn about how much I’d grown in the last year. As luck would have it, that very same day I received an email from NML of Baggage Reclaim, a wonderful blog about emotionally unavailable men and the women who have been involved with them.

NML has written an incredible e-book called Mr. Unavailable & The Fallback Girl, and she asked me if I would be interested in reviewing it. Of course I agreed. We all know I’ve been involved with more than a few of these assclowns (NML’s word) and I was anxious to hear what she had to say.

By page 6, I realized that even though I have grown about 47 million yards in the last year, I have about 47 million more to go. This particular quote brought it home.

Confronted with the truth of my relationship history, I had to accept that I am the only recurring character in my soap opera called life. I am the common denominator to every single relationship that I have ever had and if I have found myself in a pattern, I created it.

Bingo dude! You just read my mind. I emailed NML and told her that I had only reached page 6 and had already realized that I was still attracting these assclowns. Where was I going to be, I asked, by page 86?

She said she was giggling. I was in tears. I stopped reading and started again next day. By page 13 I was sobbing. I knew then that whatever else the book would bring, a new period of change was looming in my future.

I spent hours reflecting and relating what I had read to my past relationships especially a very recent one. I thought I had cleared the negative beliefs that caused me to attract EUAs. I really did.

And then I figured out the one belief I haven’t dealt with yet. No, you don’t get to know just yet. I’m saving that for tomorrow…hehe.

So I dove back in and continued reading. One of best friends, G, called while I was reading. G herself is not in the healthiest relationship and I shared with her what I had been reading, what I had discovered about myself and the men in my past, and G started to have some realizations herself.

Twice she called back and said, “So this book….” I’ll be buying a copy for her first of the week.

Yes, it’s that good and it’s that helpful and I am confident that it will have a positive impact not only on my life and relationships but those of anyone who reads it.

NML begins by introducing us to ourselves…The Fallback Girl. We are the girl who allows Mr. Unavailable to fall back on her continually. As he blows hot and cold, we keep taking him back convincing ourselves that we can make him commit to us. Truth be told, it won’t happen. He can’t commit.

We are then introduced to Mr. Unavailable himself. An ugly creature who is not only unavailable but also a commitment phobe who often dispays narcissistic tendencies, he is a master at sucking us in wrecking havoc with our lives and our self esteem.

NML gives so much insight into this man and what drives him that it’s almost scary. I continually read a description or an example and thought, “OMG! That’s soandso.”

This quote particularly hit home for me. I saw myself and at least 4 Mr. Unavailables from my past in it.

Why did they think that they could disappear and then call me up and just expect to pick up from where we left off? What happened to all the promise I saw at the beginning? Why did I always seem to draw in men with girlfriends, wives, or an ever present motber in the background tugging his apron strings? Why did I keep apologising for being me? Why did I always have to change myself in order for things to ‘work’?

Here’s the thing. As NML tells you, this book will make you uncomfortable and, at the least, it should. But that discomfort is what will inspire you to make some changes in your life and in your beliefs about yourself, men and relationships. It will help you see that attracting men who are emotionally unavailable begins in you.

The truth is that by the time I got to page 86, the tears had dried and I had realized that I too can have a healthy, committed relationship. That’s some powerful stuff right there!

A highly recommended read! Definitely inspiring and life changing!

What the hell are you waiting for? Buy and download Mr. Unavailable & The Fallback Girl now!

Read our reviews of Part 2 & 3:
Mr. Unavailable & the Fallback Girl Part2
Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl Part 3

To learn more about NML, visit Baggage Reclaim

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